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Losing Someone to Cancer

This is for anyone who has lost somone to cancer. I lost my adopted Mom to breast cancer some years ago. She was everything I could have asked for. She loved me because I was just me. She also loved my family and children as if they were her own.

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Lost Dad to Lung Cancer

Started by Shane Hughes Apr 16, 2020.

I feel worse 2 and a half years on, than I ever did. 11 Replies

Started by Michael Thompson. Last reply by morgan May 12, 2019.

Give yourself time to heal

Started by Felicia Evans May 8, 2018.

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Comment by Debra Wick on May 23, 2012 at 4:40pm

I lost my husband Bob, to liver cancer on Dec 22. He was "perfectly fine" until August 12, when he had internal bleeding. In the next five months he went to ER and was admitted to the hospital five times. Before it even sunk in that he had cancer, he was gone. He was everything to me. I miss him so much. He was only 63.

Comment by michael sandoval on May 23, 2012 at 4:35pm

Dear Maura,

I know how you feel.  My condolences

Comment by Mary M. on May 23, 2012 at 12:15am

Hi Jaylean,  Its hard being away from family when we are grieving so much .. my heart goes out to you.  God Bless!

Comment by Mary M. on May 23, 2012 at 12:14am

Dear Hope, I am sorry for your loss.  

Comment by Maura Simms on May 22, 2012 at 6:48pm

Hi Jaylean, I am all alone in Louisiana; my husband is gone and my parents are suffering in their 90's in Chicago. I am trying to get back there but financially its a huge hurdle.  If something happens to them I will go crazy.  Its extremely hard to deal with grief from afar and the least we can do is commend our superhuman strength in doing so.  I sometimes feel I am a POW or am being tortured to live this existence in silence and am glad that when I come here, I am not alone. 

Comment by Maura Simms on May 22, 2012 at 6:45pm

Dear Hope,

I am sorry you have the compounded grief of you mother "sparing" you.  I still grapple with why my husband insisted I not tell his daughter; We argued and argued but to keep from upsetting him, complied.  It seems crazy, so I guess its just a lesson to learn; if we are in that situation, we would do it differently. 

Comment by Maura Simms on May 22, 2012 at 6:42pm

Hi Vince,

Good God you are in the eye of the storm and still numb, I know how awful it is.  It will be 1 year 6/6 I lost 1/2 my soul and I can't even bring myself to pick roses on our anniversary bush because I still feel everything just dies anyway; I hate all the memories and try to forget all this sentimental nonsense but still cannot part with his snowshoes or skis or anything he touched.  What a conundrum this human condition called grief we are not equipped or prepared for.  Some days I feel like a social outcast and this is the only place to go.  All we can do is hang in there and follow our hearts. 

Comment by Jaylean Wilson on May 22, 2012 at 6:31pm

July 20, 2010 I lost my grandfather, on my dad's side, to Leukeima. By the time the dr's caught it, it was to late no treatment could have helped, not even chemo. He was 82 years old when he went home. He was the first of my close relatives to pass. Today I am grieving even more, about a month ago I lost my grandmother on my mom's side, she was like my 2nd mom. She raised me along with my oldest brother. My heart aches everyday with pain from the loss of both grandparents. I dont have anyone to talk to here. My family is all in Tx or Ok. I dont know how to deal with this alone. 

Comment by michael sandoval on May 22, 2012 at 4:50pm

Dear Hope,

My deepest condolences.

Mike

Comment by Hope R.Lennix on May 22, 2012 at 12:25pm

Hi my name is Hope I lost my Mom to this dreaded disease Metastic Andocarcinoma (Cancer that spreads throughout the body orgin unknown) to me it seemed to come out of nowhere and develop overtime I had know idea my mom was ever sick arthiritis maybe but that all we spent everyday together, went on cruises and other family trips not realizing all this would be ending soon.  I hate the fact that she chose not to tell me and if I hear one more time it was out of love and concern for me I'm going to scream. I am my mom's only child and we were close as gum too a shoe yes I have a full life my dad, a husband, children and a grandson but this emptiness I feel haunts me each minute and it tends to overshadow the good times. I tell others I'm fine that I'm doing okay but, I'm lying to them and to myself I'm just existing until it's my turn.  It's been 7mos since she went to Glory and my life seems meaningless without her. All the while in the hospital after radiation treatments and a brief week of dialysis I just knew she would get better I had know idea I was losing her. Hope needs help.

 

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My mom died 4 months ago

My mom had pulmonary fibrosis. She was sick for a few years. It was funny how when my grandmother smoked, my mom would always say-I’m gonna die from second hand smoke. My mom never smoked. She died from lung disease. Ironic.I was fine at the funeral. Planning. Talking to everyone. I thought u handled it great. Now 4 months later, I’m a mess. Some days I’m perfectly fine, but others I can’t walk down the street without crying. I keep thinking that I haven’t talked to her in a while & I…See More
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