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LGBT Grief Forum

I've been a member for, oh, just a couple of days, but I've noticed a possible lack of focus on LGBT issues related to the loss of loved ones.

I know what I had to go through - even with medical POA and a will - to gain legitimacy with the "powers that be" with regard to authorization for cremation, among other things.

Just wondering if perhaps there are issues unique to the LGBT community that the other fine people on this site did NOT have to go through.

I welcome your thoughts and concerns.

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Welcome, Karen.  I hope you can find some support here, or at least some discussion that will help ease a little bit of the pain. 

The site is filled with people who care and who have accepted me as a gay man; however, I felt there are issues that we as an LGBT community might want to discuss.  

I lost my Gary on December 9, 2011.  He lost his battle with colon cancer after a weeks stay in the hospital.  

In the end, he was surrounded by his family.  There isn't a day that goes by where I don't expect him to come in the door any minute.  

It's been a roller coaster of emotion between then and now.   I have "OK' days and I have crappy days.  

His family has embraced me even more than when Gary was alive (and we were all pretty close then).  They have been wonderful to me.

I have our three dogs that I care for these days.   They have kept me from "going around the bend", I'm sure.

How are you doing?  

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Comment by julieann on May 12, 2012 at 3:05am
Hey Philip I also thought about a lgbt forum but then when your loved one dies things just do not seem to matter anymore well for me I just wanted to die as well as I felt I just could not go on without her. My partner died September 28th 2011 she went to bed around 4pm that day as she said she was feeling tired. I said I would finish up the laundry and wake her up in a couple of hours for a light supper. I did the laundry went out back to cut roses for our table then started watering the yard which took longer than I expected around 7pm I ran up to wake her up and she was gone. I tried everything I knew CPR chest compressions until the ambulance got there, that day will always be the day that the realisation of not having our rights came and hit me like a two by four in the face. Not only had I lost her after 14 years I had lost the right to make any decisions on what her wishes were as her parents were classed as next of kin. it will be 8months on the 28th of this month my world turned upside down I moved back home to Scotland as my father had just died as well to spend time with my mum. I am doing ok yes I would say ok. everyday is another day I keep asking god WHY it just did not seem fair there were no see you laters or goodbyes. I would give anything just have the clock turned back that last day just for one more I love you, or see you later. I am back in college here in Scotland hoping to get a degree in counselling. I guess I am a mature student as the oldest one in class is yours truly. It seems to be the only thing that has any meaning for me right now and it keeps my mind busy. Thanks for starting the forum and if anyone needs to chat I am here ok.
Hugs to you. Julieann xoxo
 

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