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Permalink Reply by anita latham abbott on August 7, 2010 at 12:25pm

who says its time to let go.everyone grieves at their own level of time. noone is the same.

Permalink Reply by April on November 2, 2010 at 11:49pm

Listen love,if you don't feel like you can let your grandma go until you visit her final resting place, then it's not time to let her go. It's so hard when family is so far away. There's traveling and money, it just ain't easy! So until you can get to her resting place, it may help to talk to her from home. I believe she is in heaven watching over you! It may help! And, please try not to let people tell you how to feel! I lost my Nan 2 years ago when I was 20. Her and my Pop helped raise me for the first 7 years of my life because I lived with them! I had just moved a week before she got sick and died and after her passing it took me 1 year to put her pictures on the wall. I couldn't talk about her, couldn't look at any pictures. I just lost my Pop in Feb too! What I'm saying is that everyone's grief is different, so don't force yourself to let go until you are ready, and your heart will let you know when the time is right ;) Take care love!

Permalink Reply by Deborah K.L.W. Dunham on November 8, 2010 at 11:54pm

I am so sorry that you are still working through your grief. I know what you mean about having a hard time and not visiting your grandmothes resting place. I also live too far away. My grandmother lived in Maine, and I live in N.C.. I haven't been able to get the courage up to go for a visit but the idea of going up there and she isn't there is so hard. I used to go up there and see her every summer myself. We have a camp up there and I would stay with her instead. When we would go to bed, first we would lay together me spooning her and we would talk. She told me that we did that when I was a child too. I also had the pleasure of calling her up every night to talk. I sure miss those times.
I also wish for my grandmother to come back. Though I did have the honor of a dream where she told me she was going to heaven. Though that is the most wonderful news, I had no doubt that she has earned her way there, especially for being the mother to me that my own mother never did.
Might I make a suggestion that I found helpful. Journaling about my grandmother has helped to take some of the edge off my grief.

Permalink Reply by Adriene M. Peruzzi on August 4, 2011 at 5:23pm

I can understand that My grandma is buried in California and I live in Tennessee. I wish I could put flowers on her grave as well. I got to see them lower her into the ground and that helped me a bit but now, that I am back home in Tennessee, when it comes to her birthday time and the anniversary of her death date. and maybe a few other dates that I remember grandma and I celebrating it will be hard. My loss is so fresh its only been a month since she passed. Yes, we all deal with death differntly its going to take me awhile to let go of my Grandma too....

With Love