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Permalink Reply by Addie on October 24, 2019 at 8:05am

Michelle,

I wish I had more comforting things to tell you. What I can say is that therapy is helping me, along with a good antidepressant. Grieving in secret is impossible, and I think makes it last longer because there is no community to share it with. I was in the same dark place for months. Everything triggered memories and pain, and I felt like I'd never be able to function again.

But the pain eventually gets duller, and the moments of sadness get fewer and less intense. Of course, it has been 8 months and there still isn't a day that I don't wish he were still here.

My advice is to find someone you can talk to and grieve in front of. I have one friend who knew about my relationship. I wouldn't have made it without her.

Wishing you the best and sending healing vibes. I'm so sorry you are going through this.

Permalink Reply by Michelle Michelle on October 24, 2019 at 1:33pm

Thank you Addie, I am sorry for your loss as well.

I do have a girlfriend that knows about this and I am so lucky that I have her, she has been my rock this past week. 

Permalink Reply by Michelle Michelle on October 24, 2019 at 1:35pm

Thank you Emmy.  I am working on processing this, it is going to be a long bumpy road.  I know I will get through it.