My mother lived in Colombia and was supposed to come to visit this month because both my girls are going to be doing their first communion shortly.  (1st weekend of May) She was thrilled that the girls were going to be doing their communion and that's all she talked about for a long time.  Then suddenly she got sick and died.  So next week it will be 6 months.  I can't handle it.  I don't have it in me to make this event as memorable as it should be for the girls, I don't want to have a celebration, and I know it's not fair.  On the other hand, my husband's family is of another faith and do not celebrate, and I only have one other family member that I could share this occasion with. (the rest are in colombia) What would you do?  I've been putting this off as long as possible, each time I try to think about it all I can do is cry because my mom was supposed to be here, she would have been so happy.  And now I find myself 2 weeks away and with no plans. What would be appropriate (and simple)?