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Permalink Reply by bluebird on September 27, 2014 at 9:29pm

For me it is my husband who died; we didn't have any children.  But I didn't want you to not have any response to your post. I am sorry for your loss.

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Permalink Reply by Christine brown on October 26, 2014 at 12:43am

Vicki I too have lost my child, just over two months ago and people tell me with time it gets easier, but it does not, I go through the motions every day,I never got to say goodbye,I saw her the night before, and got the phone call the next morning she was dead,she had not been ill,so never got to say the things I would have wanted too,people keep saying time is a healer,but I cannot see that yet,so I to would like to know it will get easier, as I cannot see this at the moment

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Permalink Reply by Vicki on October 26, 2014 at 10:12am

Hi Christine.  Thank you for your reply.  I am so sorry about your daughter.  I ate dinner with my Michael on Friday and was making soup for our Saturday dinner when I got the call that he was gone. 

I think that when people talk about helpful time they mean months and even years for any healing or peace to come into our hearts.  How we make it through I have no idea.  Our lives are forever changed; our hopes for the future are gone.  I don't think I have the strength needed to make a new life and future for myself.

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Permalink Reply by Jean on October 26, 2014 at 10:21pm

My mother,

We lost my brother after a more than year long illness Dec 2002. She and I were there when there was a need to get to the hospital ASAP in and out all the time all the time. He was on a donor list. His sons really did not "get" that my brother was dying. One of them committed suicide one year later. Out of guilt? Stupidity? Who knows. Dec 12, 2003. My brother died Dec 16, 2002. It was a complete nightmare.

I had to tell my mother that. That was the worst thing. We were mad at my nephew for doing that on the anniversary.

I just wanted you all to know my mother was strong enough to go on. He was her favorite. My brother.

He was my favorite too.

My nephew was weak I guess. I feel bad that he took his own life.

She passed last year and I took care of her. That was the most rewarding thing I have ever done in my life besides being there for my brother.

Life can be a real bitch. I am getting stronger now but I miss my family every day. Seems like all the best ones went first.

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