Has anyone on the site use alcoholic to cope with Grief.

I would like to know if I am the only one on this site who uses alcoholic to cope with spouse's death.

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Permalink Reply by dream moon JO B on January 3, 2018 at 9:59am

yes 

belve me its not ansres its not 

Permalink Reply by Linda Engberg on January 3, 2018 at 2:39pm

Jo, You are right, it just makes you feel worse.

Permalink Reply by morgan on January 3, 2018 at 8:03pm

I don't Linda, but sometimes I wish I did.  I was never a big drinker (glass of wine) until hot flashes in my 50's got so bad I quit the wine,  thinking it would help.  Just never went back.  That was before the death of my husband.  

I think the crying is my chosen relief valve.  Although that has wreaked havoc on my body and I guess I'm thinking better that so I die quicker.  Lately I've been getting some freaky heart palpitations periodically that I've never felt before so I guess I keep hoping that the normal grief without using anything will do me in.  

Permalink Reply by Linda Engberg on January 4, 2018 at 6:12am

Morgan,

Thanks for your thoughts, I keep trying different things. I am trying meditation and I joined a group called Center for Spiritual Living, it has really help me cope with everyday life.

Permalink Reply by bluebird on January 6, 2018 at 7:06pm

I haven't, but that's not from any moral high ground or anything, it's just because I don't much like alcohol. 

I do have to take a couple of Benadryl every night in order to sleep, though, and have done every night since my husband died (except for the first couple of weeks after he died, and on the really bad nights since, when I have to take sleeping pills instead).

Permalink Reply by JenShep on January 14, 2018 at 1:45pm

No, you're not the only one. I drink every day to numb it. Sometimes it helps, sometimes it makes things worse. I only wish I didn't drink as much as I do because of all of the calories lol. If it kills me, that'd be great. I just don't want to get fat haha. I don't drink irresponsibly like during the day at work or if I have to drive or anything like that. But, if I'm at home and I start to get really sad I think "oh! I'll have a cocktail!" and one turns to two or three...

Permalink Reply by Linda Engberg on January 15, 2018 at 5:00am

JenShep,

I only have a glass of wine when my grief feels like it is going to sallow me up.

Permalink Reply by Kimberly f. on February 22, 2018 at 6:04pm

Same here JenShep.

Permalink Reply by Kimberly f. on February 22, 2018 at 6:03pm

Yes; I do. I lost my mom December 31, 2017, due to cancer. I have a cocktail every day. I never get drunk. It seems to soothe me

Permalink Reply by Linda Engberg on February 23, 2018 at 8:36am

Kimberly

SAME HERE

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