Loosing my father unexpectadly

Hi i lost my dad just over 2 months ago now and its harder and harder everyday for me to cope. He was run over by a car on his way to my house and just a house over is where he was found i cant get them images out of my head i cant forget. He died a week later in Middlemore hospital in Auckland. It was the most draining week of my life to be told that there was nothing more that they could do for him after his operation on his neck he was not improving so heart breakingly his children me my brothers and sisters were told that we had a choice to let him suffer for the rest of his life on a breathing machine and paralysed from the chest down or to just taken the tube out and let him breath freely until he lets go......the most hardest thing we have all had to go through ever he lasted a hour or 2 and then slowly let go to be with his mum. None of the images ever leave my head i cry everyday i just cant get through this i put on a smile for everybody and for my daughter who asks about her koro everyday. i need help but i cant speak to anyone i just start crying and that does not help.

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Permalink Reply by John Barry on May 9, 2017 at 12:34am

Hi Dawn, so sorry for your loss. I lost my mother 4 years ago. There is a group called Grief Share. These are people who have lost someone recently. It helps very much to be with people who are going through the same experience. 

This group has helped me and many others to deal with the grief of a loss.

Here is the link for their site in Australia.

https://www.griefshare.org/countries/au

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