Am I expecting too much from our friends?

I have heard it so often..."Your friends will disappear, you will no longer fit in with the other couples."  Thomas swore this would not happen to me.  He convinced me this would not happen.  But now that I've hit the 6 month mark, it has happened.  I've felt some of our closest friends easing away from me, but then I would see them and felt it must have been my imagination. No, it was real.  I believe the time has come that they must feel it more comfortable without us.  Time for them to move on I guess.  The moment I realized I was excluded from the dinner party, I was heartbroken.  But wait a minute, I know that I had been so busy this week and would not have accepted the invitation even if I had been asked.  Then why am I so upset?  Because it's everyone we had been so close with are now distant.  It's just another pain, another realization that I am not nearly as good of a person without him.  I'm trying desperately to hold on to a life that has dissipated into vapor.  

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Comment by dream moon JO B on July 12, 2015 at 4:22pm

dnt why frinds ignre us or cross st wen hav a loss i thng we bean punsht enuf wen we hav had a loss/lossssses 

thn frinds trn agasnt us i wud not do it 2 thm i dnt thng aeny of us on hear wud do it we wud not iv evn gt wong coz i fogt 2 send xmas crds bday 1s so on 

not sorry coz iv bean thru so mush loss bad thng go on 

dnt wnt slf pity juts wish frinds wud not ignre me or us or crss st wen thy sea us

if im rantn 2 mush melode im sorry juts neeed bt of rant i do

Comment by nicole irving on July 11, 2015 at 11:58pm

melodie, you " being not nearly as good a person without it" , you are the same person going through a very very difficult time, i said to one of my friends the other day that i need to rediscover who i am because loosing this 50% of yourself leaves you feeling very lost. i have found people just dont know what to say to me, perhaps scared of saying the wrong thing. and i think i am learning who my true friends are. some have disappointed me i thiught they would have been the ones standing by my side instead one of them told me the other day to go back to work and get on with my life........ think that friendship has nearly hit the end! but i too have found alot of people that have been surprisingly wonderful support, people that i have never up until now considered to be paticularly close too. life is hard and it is going to take all of us a long time to find our new normal. thinking of you. nicole

Comment by dream moon JO B on July 11, 2015 at 4:18pm

so sorry 4 yore loss wen my dad died frinds wud cross st sum still dnt wnt 2 no me iv dun notng 2 thm 

thn multi loss on top u sea 1s u not sean fr agez u dnt seam yore slf thy tell u soon u tell thm wots hapnd 2 u thy cnt seam 2 get way so fst frm us 

i no way u feal 

so sorry 4 yore loss big (((hug)))

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