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Comment by Benny Shipton on September 14, 2009 at 11:12am

thanks- i wrote this on a not so good day, im sure you all know what i mean. I am glad that i came across this site where we can all share our feelings and not be judged x

Comment by Katie Grace on September 11, 2009 at 2:58am

Although its natural to feel intense amounts of pain and retreat within yourself feeling like no one understands what you are going through, which is true to an extent since we all experience grief differently, but Im also glad to hear that you are reaching out to others and trying to get help in this uncharted territory many of us call grief. There were some things that I started regretting or wishing I had done differently after my mom has passed and then I thought to myself, what would my mother tell me if she were here. The truth is that she would have never wanted me to get stuck in the past and my own regreats and would want me to live my life to the fullest. Im sure your dad would want the same for you as well and if you are anything like me, no one is harder on me than me. Seeing things through others' eyes can sometimes help you have more compassion on yourself through a really difficult time. I wish you the best and my heart and prayers go out to you.

Comment by Ann Edmondson on September 6, 2009 at 10:48pm

Benny~while I have not lost a parent I have lost a child. My son was just shy of his 21st birthday when he was killed. Grieving takes time. Don't let anyone tell you any different! I still have days when all I want is a good crying session. Remember the good things about your father. As time goes by, perhaps you can discuss your feelings with your siblings. Don't dwell in past regrets but cherish the good memories. If I can help in any way, (if nothing more than a listener to your heart) then please email or post me. I will keep you in my prayers. May God help you find the peace that you need.

Comment by Laura Villarreal on August 31, 2009 at 5:33pm

Benny, you are not alone. All of us on this website are grieving the loss of a loved one, I my 33 year old daughter. You have nothing to feel guilty about...I'm not sure why your sister would hide...how old is she? Death/dying is so scary to think about and even more scary to witness when it is our loved one. Try not to think about regrets-it serves no purpose. You wrote some beautiful things about your dad-continue to focus on those memories. I believe you are blessed to have been able to have a "normal" conversation with your dad and to have been able to say "I love you" is just so special.

Benny, I am not an expert or professional in the grieving process, these are my personal experiences I share with you. While grieving is painful and at times confusing and isolating I believe you will find the members on this website to very helpful and caring. Take life one day at a time and allow yourself to grieve. Did you join the I love my Dad group on this website? If not, considering doing so...
Take care, and if you feel you might want to share some photos of your dad we would like that.
My condolences on the loss of your dad...
Laura