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About my Loss:
I lost my dad to cancer May 4 1983, 30 years this weekend. I've had this ache in my life since, I never found nor accepted closure.
You see, I was 19, I had spoke to dad a few days before, nothing seemed to be wrong. Then I got the call that he was gone. Cancer. He never told his kids. Only his common law wife and her son knew. As it turned out, dad had only found out himself a few months earlier that he had a very aggresive form of cancer.
I spent years being angry and hurt, for the loss, for him not telling me and everything else that goes with death.
I now finally realize he only wanted to live his last days in the best possible way, and not with people coddling him (that was not in his nature).
Now coming up on 30 years, I've been feeling like he has been talking to me, telling me that it is time to let go, find the closure. It's like he has been telling me that he hasn't been able to rest, because I haven't let go.
I am finally ready. It's going to be like losing him all over again, but I need to do this for him and I.

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Closure after 30 yearsd

On May 4th of this year, it was the 30th anniversary of my dad's passing. I lost him when I was a  rebellious, vulnerable individual, lost somewhere between child and adulthood. He'd been sick with a very aggressive form of cancer. He did not tell me. When I look back now, the signs were there, but he did put on a good front. I can't imagine what his wife went through, knowing this, but not letting on to his kids.

I remember going to my apartment and a neighbor saying that the…

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Posted on May 10, 2013 at 8:47am

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