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I am 19 years old, and my mother was my best friend in every sense of the word. Unfortunately, in October of 2011, she passed away after acute liver failure due to alcoholism. Yesterday marked 4…Continue
Started this discussion. Last reply by Theresa Mar 1, 2012.
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I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. It can be a sad, painful and difficult thing. Sometimes you may wonder why this has to happen to u because when you are young, its a hard thing to understand, and we still have so many questions that are left unanswered. However; we still make it through it. I lost my dad when I was 25 nd miss him up to today. I loss my husband on June 12th, 2012. But God knows best. I can't question his work. He will see us through.
Jean
I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. It can be a rough thing, and sometimes I wonder why stuff like this has to happen because when you are young, its a hard thing to understand, and we still have so many questions that are left unanswered however; we still make it through it. I didn't lose my mother though I lost my father when I was sixteen, i'm now twenty and i'm still not completely over it.
Chelsea, it will take you some time to heal. It;s ok to be angry. Let it out as i did in my letters. I needed him to no how much he hurt me and that i forgave him. Keep your FAITH! and you will begin to heal when your ready. keep talking to people that understand you and don't judge you or your mothers memory. Cherish those beautiful pictures of your moms big smile. keep the loving memories in your heart and soon in time, the bad ones won;t be remembered. Just remember FORGIVENESS!! and FAITH! is the key. Give yourself some time , you deserve that much. Take care!
Chelsea, so glad i could give you some comfort. I'm a mom of 1 son myself. If you ever need to talk, i am here for you. There is one thing i did that really helped me through these emotions. Everyday, for months i wrote a letter to my brother in a journal. Might sound crazy, but it helped me vent and be angry with the person who left ( Brother Dave) I told him off, cried to him, remembered good times, just like we always did. Finally, after 3 months i wrote my last letter to him. I told him i forgive him, love him and i need to let him go and be happy in Heaven. I told him not to worry about me as i will SURVIVE. Forgiveness is the key to survival Chelsea. I learned to forgive the people who hurt me. Doesn't mean i will forget them, just forgive them so i can live for the people in my life who love me now and be happy. Everything takes time, especially healing. I'm here for you Chelsea and so are your loved ones. Take care!! Debbie
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I,m So very sorry for your loss Chelsea. My name is Debbie and i,m a survivor of alcoholism in my family. My father passed when i was 18 from alcohol abuse. My mom passed 2 yrs ago from liver and lung cancer. She also was a alcoholic, along with my dad and 4 out of 5 brothers. Almost 1 yr ago ( 3-6-2011) My baby brother passed from alcohol abuse. All his organs just shut down. He was 47, same age as my dad. That tore me up as i tried everything in my power to help him. The pain is so deep, that only those who have experienced it, can relate. I felt your pain when i read your blog and i hope you can get through this as painless as possible. First of all, Its not your fault. I still struggle with guilt everyday, thinking i could have done more for my brother. One thing i have realized through all this pain is, only Dave could save himself. I was so angry at him for not getting better. I thought he was selfish and didn't care about anyone but himself. Only through reading, i realize he couldn't do it. The disease had a strong hold on him and he needed more care than i ever realized. He also had bi-polar and that had a lot to do with his drinking. I,m by no means making excuses for my brother, but there are always deeper reasons than we no of, for our love ones doing what they do. I hope you can find peace within your heart and soul, to be able to heal. Your so very young and still very fragile. The people upsetting you are only trying to help. I no, it can piss you off as you feel they don't get it. I actually had people tell me, Your brother is better off in Heaven than here on earth. You no what? It was the best and only logical thing anyone had said to me in months. Chelsea, Be strong my dear. We are survivors. We are not given anything in life, we can't handle. Be strong!! God Bless You!