You know what is helpful about this site?  Its when you hear that the experiences you have had are not isolated or abnormal.  I had yet to read anyone talk about how the lack of communication at the end was losing appetite, confused and not recognizing what is going on around them.  I needed to hear that.  I am so sorry for your experience Chanzy but it gives me a little less guilt as to how my husbands death affected me at the end.  I am crying now as to how that all transpired but I want to thank you for sharing how the pain of death affects us all.  I beg the universe to relieve me of this ongoing trauma of missing my husband but I realize its not to be.  I am just glad to read that my feelings of pain are not unusual because of the circumstances that happened at the end.