Mary I am SO sad for you and your sister... many years ago my twin sisters both had babies close to the same time... their first sons... about three months later one of my sisters found her little boy dead in his crib one morning... crib death... which at that time wasn't really understood ... she was so devastated ... a couple of years later both twins had children about the same time again... this time one had her second boy, and the other had  a girl... of course the second child could never replace the one that died, as any mother who has lost any child knows... both another sister and I have had infertility issues too.... we both adopted... its not for everyone, but it was wonderful for US.... I waited so long to adopt I was too old to be given an infant unless it was one with special needs, or a minority, so my husband and I adopted an interracial boy, and later a girl and boy of another race... last year about this time my youngest son died suddenly while we were on vacation.... NOTHING has ever been this hard in all my life... my heart goes out to you and your sister... I too have trouble with the reason for such pain in this life... from a loving God... the losses seem to go on and on and so often the dearest people seem to be the 'target' for so much pain... I can only send you hugs and tell you I'm so sorry for you and your sister... I hope somehow she will be able to have another child in her life... please give her a hug from me if you think she wouldn't object...