"Im sorry Bluebird, I forgot to mention what I started to tell you which is that I looked forward every week to my mom coming and we would talk, and cook, and laugh, then she started feeling too bad to come and we found out she had Lymphoma and she…"
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"Awe, I wish we lived near eachother so we could go places. I know exactly how you feel and its good but sad to know that someone else lives like me, I had talked to you right after my husband died because I searched what I felt and your blog came…"
"I honestly feel when I am ready to draw my very last breathe in this life, I will be thankful. I have nothing and it is so hard to see others living but I like you Bluebird come home and wish I still had my sweet husband in my life to enjoy. I try…"
"I agree. Its been six and a half years since my beloved husband passed and I still cry everyday because I miss him and I see everyone else with their husband and feel so empty. We were married 23 yrs and my heart failed when he died because Iwas so…"
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- About Me:
- Not much to tell....just lost my husband in June. I miss him so much I don't know how much longer I can do this.
- About my Loss:
- Took my 47 year old husband of 23 years who I loved more than my own life to VCU Hospital in Richmond, Va. because I had heard they were a good hospital. He had some health issues that would EVENTUALLY lead to death if he did not have a transplant, but he was managing his condition with regular dr. visits and medicine, he was not ready to DIE NOW. He went to VCU in stable condition, they admitted him and that was the start of his demise. Two days after he was admitted some idiot dr. gave him a pill that is known to induce seizures in people with this current condition. He never had ANY seizures in his 47 years of life, but this one pill threw him into seizure mode and they had to put him into a medically induced coma to stop them. He was under so much medicine to undo that dumb bitch's screw up that his kidneys failed and he laid in that bed in ICU for FIVE weeks. He lost so much weight his arms looked like a concentration camp victim and regardless of my requesting that someone from Physical Therapy work with him to keep his body strong, they refused to help him. He was so weak all he could do is sleep and they kept him intubated for FIVE weeks when the max for intubation is fifteen DAYS. He eventually became so sick of the tube he pulled it out and was breathing fine on his own until an unskilled nurse tried to ram a tube up his nose and he began bleeding. That evening the nurse was not around (she had complained to me earlier that day that due to the holiday there were not enough nurses to cover the number of critically ill people in the unit...nice, huh?) and when he began choking on the blood gushing down his throat no one came to his rescue. He went into cardiac arrest, survived THAT ordeal, but they REINTUBATED him that night. He again pulled the tube out because it was painful and the next day he began bleeding profusely again. I begged them to take him to find out where the bleeding was coming from and to stop it, but they flat out REFUSED. They knew he would die with blood buidling up in his chest and stomach but they did not CARE. The ICU drs. had been trying to convince me to stop treatment and just let him die for several weeks, but I refused because some of the specialists advised that he COULD recover with continued treatment. They decided on thier OWN that they were cutting off help for my husband and my repeated requests for them to transfer him to a better hospital were denied because they did not want another hospital to see what they had done to him! I truly do hope that those inept drs. that brought such harm to my poor husband die in the same manner he did, in a hospital at the mercy of an incompetent staff ! They all got to go home the day he died and go on living like nothing ever happened. My life is devastated and my heart and soul ache for him every moment of every day. There is no relief for me because I died with him!
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My mom died 4 months ago
My mom had pulmonary fibrosis. She was sick for a few years. It was funny how when my grandmother smoked, my mom would always say-I’m gonna die from second hand smoke. My mom never smoked. She died from lung disease. Ironic.I was fine at the funeral. Planning. Talking to everyone. I thought u handled it great. Now 4 months later, I’m a mess. Some days I’m perfectly fine, but others I can’t walk down the street without crying. I keep thinking that I haven’t talked to her in a while & I…See More
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