When death and career collide ( in need of help)

Hello reader,

My brother was murdered while serving legal documents about three years ago now. I still grieve for him everyday. This was my job for over twenty years and after his death I continued for another two years. I had a bit of a breakdown after a lot of pent up feelings surfaced. I vowed to never be threatened in the way my brother must have been for a twenty five dollar service for an uncaring attorney. Never again. It's been a year. I have been job searching for months. Employers seem to want to know why I left my last job. Once I say, no matter how "matter of fact" I try to make it sound, folks seem to be repelled. I think people are naturally repelled by trauma and death. I did not ask for this. How can I get past this phenomenon? How do I get excited about an interview when This happens time after time? I am not comfortable being a liar. I do not know how to make up a viable back story. Any experience in this that could be shared would be so appreciated. Thank you for reading. Leslie.

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