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Comment by Debbie Seeley on July 8, 2012 at 7:37pm

Thank you for your words.  It really helps to be able to talk about this and have some feedback from people who are also grieving.  One thing that really bothers me is the term "Closure".  I don't believe there is closure, I believe I just have to get through the grief and remember all the wonderful things about the loved ones I have lost and thank God for those I have left.  It is just hard to get through that grief stage and closure seems to me to be something that is closed off.  I want to remember but right now it is just too hard.  I want to be able to forgive the person who murdered my son but I am not that good a person and don't see that in my future.

Comment by susan joanette wilson on July 8, 2012 at 10:00am

Hi Debbie I am really sorry for your loss.  I have lost two sons to wrongful deaths. My oldest son Bill on Nov.22,2009. He was 32. He was hit by a pick up truck crossing the street. My youngest son Derek May 9 2011. He was sitting on the bucket of a backhoe a kid Hit that tractor ejecting him and two others. Law suits have been started we are at the last status is next month and will be put on the jury calender. In between my sons my father passed. circle of life. tears and anger are daily. I melt down when i see pix. I miss them so much There was no justice for Bill. the gut that hit him didn't even get a ticket. Made it so the victum was made to look like it was his fault. the kid that hit my youngest was high on drugs. I am angry. I cry all the time. I plan on being there with my tears at trial. I know god has a reason but i can't understand that reason. I read a article that helped with tears. tears are a showing how much that person was loved.  Its OK to cry. and sometimes the tears come and inconvient times the tears come out of nowhere. that is ok too.  it takes time, you have to grieve and mourn your loss time isn't an issue. When a year has passed and others around you think you should be over it and its not its your greif and its very personal.  Ask god what to do and you will never go wrong,  god bless you and you arenot alone   joanette

Comment by David H on July 7, 2012 at 1:30pm

I keep seeing the comment "move forward" so Iam learning a lot myself over grief.I only lost my wife over a month ago and I found myself wanting to move on to fast. Me personally having photos and things to remember her by help me through it .Sometimes though after seeing the photo posted here almost brought me to tears.