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Comment by Bonnie Elizabeth Fleming on March 8, 2012 at 4:54pm

No one can really answer that but you, I think.  I can tell you what multiple people have been telling me...and that is to not make any life-changing decisions until one whole year has passed.  In other words, if the decision to go to Paris was made and firm in your heart before your sister died, then honor that decision made with thought and consideration when you were "in your non-grief-stricken" condition.  Something along these same lines is going on in my life right now and that is the advice I'm being given.  Part of me understands this advice and sees the wisdom of it and the rest of me rebels against it.  So far I am taking the advice...but just as different people grieve differently, I think the atmospheres we all want to grieve in will be different for different people too.  Listen attentively to that still small voice inside of you that tells you what is right for YOU.