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Comment by anna l. on November 23, 2011 at 4:32pm

Paulette I am very sorry you are part of this type of wives club. My husband and I had our 30th anniversary 3 days after he was got sick and I knew I would loose him soon. Somewhere on here I posted how Thanksgiving was for me this year. Living in Canada our Thanksgiving was in October. It was one of the hardest things I have had to do but the day itself was easier. I just got so busy and having the house full was good for all of us. Instead of having a formal sit down meal in the dining room we had a buffet style in the kitchen. It kept us from feeling the emptiness of the two special seats in the diningroom as intensly. Instead of watching tv, we played basketball and I nearly got skunked by the little boys. Instead of pumpkin pie which was Toms favorite we had pumpkin cheesecake. After the kids went home that night, I had a giant meltdown cry and talked to Toms picture for a long time. I hate that he is gone. He did not deserve to die the way he did. I love him so much and miss him every minute and that is not going to change any time soon, just like you. I hope you find when you wake up Friday morning that it was worth the effort for you too.

Comment by Mariann Bamberger on November 23, 2011 at 4:19pm

Paulette, I feel for you. This must be incredibly difficult for you after so many years. This will be my first holiday alone, my husband of six wonderful years passed one month ago today. I have no family around, and neighbors & friends are traveling, but I don't expect them to alter their plans. I did have one invitation to go to a dinner, but I choose to be alone. It could be a distraction to go, however, I don't wish to be a bad guest who might start bawling at the table!  I have a lot to do, as I have to sell the house, so I'm packing, selling, etc. It's too bad there aren't a group for us who are in this situation to get together and have the support from others.  Maybe I should start one, but have no clue where to start! Tomorrow I plan to have a "regular" day, then will watch some of the movies I want to see and he didn't care for, along with a bottle of wine, crackers and good cheese.

Take care,

Mariann