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Comment by Taka on May 18, 2015 at 3:40am

Thank very much for your kind words and understanding. I don't feel crazy any more for feeling the way I am feeling. It's good to know I'm not alone. It's okay for me to break down and cry. It's not self pity it is grieve I am feeling. I believe you when you say time will help because you have lost members of your family that you loved very much.

Comment by Jennifer Colvin on May 17, 2015 at 9:53am

You are right, it is very hard for people who have not experienced loss to understand.  I've lost both parents, 3 sisters and my brother, cousins, aunts, uncles, cousins most before age 50.  Its been 4 years since my last sister died and 5 years since my mom, I'm the only one left.  I still break down and cry over random stupid things when I want to call them and can't.  I think it is normal because you have lost something very important to your life.  There are memories, anniversaries, holidays, it is all hard, but I can tell you it does get easier over time. 

When my oldest sister died suddenly at age 43, I couldn't even say her name for a couple of years without losing it.  Its been almost 22 years since then and her daughter is getting married this year and I still am not sure if I can keep it together to go to the wedding.  Just give yourself time and grieve as you need to.  If the people in your life can't respect that, you don't need them in your life.  Find someone who will support you.