(((((HUGS))))) from me to you! I hope you will come back to this website. The people here have all suffered a loss and understand the agony you are going through, Ya see, grief is not a destination but a journey. Each of us travel this road in our own way and in our own time. You may find similarities that will make you feel less alone. Please do not be devastated by some of the "stupid things people say". It is unbelievable sometimes. But the best thing you can do is to talk.

Talking can be a helpful release. Following the death of all ten of his children, as well as some other personal tragedies, the ancient patriarch Job said: “My soul certainly feels a loathing toward my life. I will give vent to [Hebrew, “loose”] my concern about myself. I will speak in the bitterness of my soul!” (Job 1:2, 18, 19; 10:1) Job could no longer restrain his concern. He needed to let it loose; he had to “speak.” Similarly, the English dramatist Shakespeare wrote in Macbeth: “Give sorrow words; the grief that does not speak whispers the o’er-fraught heart and bids it break.”

I will be ready to listen anytime you need me to be...

Brenda