Dear Rita,

If you look for advice on dealing with grief, you will likely find a myriad of ideas​—some more helpful than others. Perhaps that is because, everyone grieves differently. What works for one person may not work for someone else.

Even so, there are some basic guidelines that have proved practical for many. They are frequently cited by grief counselors, and they echo timeless principles found in an ancient book of wisdom, the Bible. Click on the link below. It contains 12 practical suggestions that help us all.

Coping With Grief​—What You Can Do Today

Hope you find things that help you in this article.

Brenda

Rita you're right, nobody can take our pain away or make it better. But I do find some comfort what everybody writes and everybody understands my feelings. The last days I feel so empty and exhausted and think I have no tears leaved anymore, but then I se belongings from my son or a pic.....and my tears start running again.
I hope we can put him at the cemetery latest next week to rest in peace. My son got cremated and the military has to bring the urn here and there is still some paperwork to be done (German bureaucracy ) and the investigation is still going on.
And yes it should be me to be lay down at the cemetery, not my son.
Hugs to you

Dear Rita

I'm so sorry for your loss. Reading your story, I cried so much. My faith is gone too, questioning a lot of things now.

My son's investigation is still going on. Wish it be over with.

I know how you feel. Hugs to you.