Randy~Welcome to our web site.  There are a lot of wonderful supportive people here who are going through exactly the same.  I lost my husband Joe on December 3, 2010.  He was on the UNOS list waiting for a heart transplant but God had other plans for us.  I too am going through hassles with the VA (who denied him a transplant) the University of Chicago.  It's all too overwhelming.  I have two young adult children and three adorable little grandsons but they can't keep me company when the lights go out at night.  I'm lonely and frightened as I think we all are after we suffer such a huge loss.  It's frustrating and draining to our souls.  You need support from people who understand.  We are all here for you.  I'm sending you a friend request.