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Pamela Z Hoffmaster
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Losing Someone to Drug O…
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Missing my Son or Daug…
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- About Me:
- In a stable relationship for 15 years. Have 3 sons. 34, 30 and 19. Lost my husband and father to my First two sons in 1988 from a brain tumor. He was 35 and I was 32.
- About my Loss:
- Lost my 30 Year old son Justin to overdose on July 31st 2013. Its so Hard to even type the words. He was the most kindest caring loving person in the world. He was my hero. And I was his. He was the peace keeper in the family. The happy one who refused to worry, judge people or complain. The one to do random acts of kindness just out of compassion. Why do the good always die young? As I type this I am wondering if this support group is a good thing cause Im balling my eyes out. But Im going to give it a try. This grief is like no other. It makes you question yourself and things. Like why cant I look at his picture? Why cant I go in his room? What do you say when someone asks how many children do you have? Without having to go into an explanation. Im trying not to dwell. And pick up the pieces. And there are moments when out of sight out of mind works. Just don't know if that's healthy or prolonging the grief.
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Lost My Spouse...
389 members
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Sole Survivors
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Losing Someone to Drug O…
72 members
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Missing my Son or Daug…
452 members
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How to move on...
11 members
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surviving family members…
15 members
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Lost both parents
13 members
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Missing my sister
14 members
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Funeral Service
3 members
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Sibling Loss
11 members
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Losing a spouse and dati…
19 members
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Losing Someone to Cancer
633 members
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I want my Mom!
9 members
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Loss of a loved one to a…
5 members
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You're too young to be a…
140 members
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Pamela I am so sorry for your loss. In 2010 my 34 year old son died. The sharp razor edge of this pain does ease over time and getting from one minute to the next gets easier. Don't worry about what you cant do right now. Instead focus on what you can do. As to the how many children question, you will ALWAYS be a mom of three sons. If you feel like adding that one got his angel wings then do, if not, that is ok too. Give yourself permission to take any and all steps forward at your own pace. It was the greatest gift I have ever given myself. I do not think I would be in the place I am now if I had not learned that early on in my grief. Take care. I know you will find comfort and understanding here.
Pamela, you are NOT alone.. I pray that you find some measure of peace as time goes by. I have released that whatever you feel at the moment is ok so don't think about why you can't look at his picture etc. For a long time I would spend days reading and re-reading our chats and feel close, then suddenly, I wouldn't go near his pics and some days I would tell him, I am not going to think about it... its all ok, there really are no 'should s'.. I find this group the most supportive and empathetic and it has helped me deal with my loss as all are going through the same horrifying days. I welcome you with open arms and please post and share whatever you want. It DOEs help..love to you.