My mom died 4 months ago
My mom had pulmonary fibrosis. She was sick for a few years. It was funny how when my grandmother smoked, my mom would always say-I’m gonna die from second hand smoke. My mom never smoked. She died from lung disease. Ironic.I was fine at the funeral. Planning. Talking to everyone. I thought u handled it great. Now 4 months later, I’m a mess. Some days I’m perfectly fine, but others I can’t walk down the street without crying. I keep thinking that I haven’t talked to her in a while & I…See More
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Hi Elizabeth,
I'm so sorry for what you are going thru!
I was a nurse...a GI nurse. I stopped working just this past Christmas. I spent the year of 2014 taking care of my husband of 27 years who was diagnosed with Stage IV lung cancer. He lasted only 9 months after diagnosis. He suffered thru the chemo and radiation only to die days before deer season which is what he lived for...Initially I was giving him 200mg of the time released Morphine, but got him down to 60mg BID with occ. breakthru. He had worked so hard to improve. He had a bucket list of house improvements he wanted to complete before he left me. Here he was, so sick, and his thoughts were to make MY life easier.
All that my kids and I could do for him was let him know how much we loved him and appreciated him. It sounds like that is what you are doing for your mom. Continue letting her know that she made a difference in your life! Love her and tell her that she is what made you! Even any "brattiness" that she had to deal with turned you into the successful nurse you are now. And remember that it is ok to cry...It is ok to be mad...just not at your mom. She didn't choose this.
Good luck to you!
Hi Elizabeth. So sorry to hear about your mom. I have not had to go through that one. I don't know how that would feel. I have not been close to my mom my whole life, so when I say I have no idea of how it would feel to lose someone that close to you, I really have no clue. I am so sorry it has to be like this too. Cancer is not a good way to go. I see it eating away at Rocky every day. I don't know if the chemo is worse, or if it's just the cancer. He doesn't take his chemo all the time because it makes him so sick and the Dr's are all for that. You know, quality of life and everything. But I know that it just means that much less time I have with him and there is nothing I can do about it. Then I will be totally lost.
Thank you for making me your friend.
Hi Elizabeth,
I am so sorry about your mother. I know how hard it is to watch a loved one die from cancer. I pray that she goes peacefully. I also hope that you will find peace.