Grandma sewing room
So I am almost done with cleaning my grandmas sewing room that wasn’t touched in 10 years because of all the mess, but now that she passed away 2 days ago, I don’t know if I should continue, I wanna finish what I started but I don’t know what to do, my grandpa is still alive and I don’t want to leave this burden on him.See More
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Debbie, I am sorry for your loss. I personally don't believe that God takes our children, but that is just my belief. My son Silas died of cancer at age 29, just 8 months after his diagnosis. I spent many many hours in the chapel at the hospital praying for God to give me Sy's illness and let him live a full life without all of the suffering. I joke that an imprint of my body is probably still in the carpet of the chapel. I have spent time being angry with God for life working out this way, and can't say that I am at "peace" with God yet. But I have come to a place where I feel that love is what this life and afterlife is all about; we give love here, and send it with our children when they go. I believe they send their love back as well... I can't imagine the pain and anger you must feel with your situation. I know this is a difficult road, and that it doesn't get easier, but things change. Last night was New Year's Eve and difficult for me to turn the calendar to another year... but I was able to go to a movie, which I couldn't do the previous two years since Silas passed on. I guess it's all "baby steps," and I know that we never forget our children or stop grieving their loss. I am glad you found this group, the nonjudgmental support is so crucial, and difficult to get on the outside sometimes. Sending lots of love your way
Hey Debbie. I am so sorry to learn of yet, another tremendous loss. i am still suffering from the loss of my 21 yr old son. He was riding his friend's motorcycle on a residential street, he was chased and rammed into an oncoming car. I can feel your pain as I read your words, I am definately crying with you along with all the other unfortunate parents that have had to bury their children. None of this will NEVER be "ok"......how could it? I too am tormented by the thoughts of anger, pain and fear my son must have had just before he flipped off of that bike. I was told by witnesses that lived on that street that my son was on the ground holding his chest and kicking his legs around. I was told he loss consciousness shortly after arriving to the E.R.. My son was there for 30! hours before any of of knew where he was, they brought him there as a 'John Doe', I was told that he didn't have any ID on him. Me and my son were robbed of his life after being in ICU for 1 week. I also feel like I died with my son, the joy I once had is gone, me having other children does not fill the void of losing one. There is no greater pain than this. I am so angry at the world sometimes for going on without my son, my children are my world. Our sons will ALWAYS be our sons, they will always be our babies!! They had a life, they are not just a "MEMORY".
You may want to join the group "Missing Our Sons and Daughters" on this same site. I am also a member, it's so important to have your feelings validated and not judged.
Once again, I am sorry that you have come to know this pain. Many hugs to you.