Grandma sewing room
So I am almost done with cleaning my grandmas sewing room that wasn’t touched in 10 years because of all the mess, but now that she passed away 2 days ago, I don’t know if I should continue, I wanna finish what I started but I don’t know what to do, my grandpa is still alive and I don’t want to leave this burden on him.See More
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Darlene
I'm sure tomorrow will be a very hard day, as well as Monday. I know that we all have to go through that first year of "firsts" without our love. First birthday, first Christmas, first anniversary. I know that as Father's Day approaches I am so sad at the thought of my kids spending it without their dad. I am ordering each of them a photo book with pictures of them and their dad and will give it to them on Father's Day. We will spend the evening together in honor of keeping the traditions that we worked so hard to build, but it will be beyond sad. It's hard enough to just get through a regular day without him.
Today I tried to decide what to have engraved on his stone, and it is just hard. How do I tell his story in just a few words. The woman that did Jim's eulogy said she had heard many times that someone was "larger than life" but that with my husband, it was the first time that she believed it. He was the first person that everyone turned to with their problems, and the first person to find away to make someone's life easier, or better. How do I fill those shoes, for all of those people.
I hope you can find a way to get through the next two days with a little bit of happiness remembering the love you shared and the memories you have.
Hi Darlene
I lost my husband of 37 years on April 1st. I feel like I can't breathe most of the time because I miss him so much. Please don't be so hard on yourself about not being home. I was home when my husband passed. He had been fighting cancer for 13 months and went from 256lbs to 126 lbs. I had just left the room when his sister and my sister called me back and said he was gone.
I don't know which is worse, watching your love die a slow painful death or losing them quickly. I know that we had time to say to each other what he wanted to say, but it's horrible watching and never thinking you are doing enough. I wish I had some magic words, but I don't, I too miss him so much that I cant stop crying most of the time. We worked together, so that isn't even a way to escape. Please know that I know how you feel and you aren't alone.