My mom died 4 months ago
My mom had pulmonary fibrosis. She was sick for a few years. It was funny how when my grandmother smoked, my mom would always say-I’m gonna die from second hand smoke. My mom never smoked. She died from lung disease. Ironic.I was fine at the funeral. Planning. Talking to everyone. I thought u handled it great. Now 4 months later, I’m a mess. Some days I’m perfectly fine, but others I can’t walk down the street without crying. I keep thinking that I haven’t talked to her in a while & I…See More
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Hi Carol, Im really sorry you are dealing with the same pain I am. To answer your question about making big changes, one of the last conversations I had with my husband was one on this subject. He made me promise to not make any big changes for the one year. I promised, I told him I would be ok, I promised to be ok and within hours the cancer took control of his brain and we had to keep him medicated and asleep for his own good. He passed in that drugged sleep 18 hours later. I think he needed to know everything was in place for me and then he let go. So I will stay in this house, keep his truck, but there is no rule saying when you feel ready you cant change your situation. I believe we have to trust ourselves enough to know what is right for us. As long as you are not feeling pressure from some other source, do what you feel is right
I've heard not to make any big changes for 1 year after a loss. Is it true? We moved south for 1 year and came back to be with family at the end. He passed in Nov 2011. We had our house for sale and it didn't sell. I'm thinking of moving out of our house, it has too many memories. I'm thinking about starting over at a new place. Is it too soon to make a decision?