Oh dear Barbara L in the UK,  on the off chance I decided to click on the new blue boxes your posting of your husbands death and the other things you are going to have to deal with are just traumatizing.  I am so so sorry.  None of us can control space or time.  WE are just here and supposed to live it out.  If I hadn't had my own loss I wouldn't be quite as understanding because I don't think we can.  But your loss is compounded and the vey best you can do is take baby steps.  Little tiny ones getting you to the next half hour.  

Circumstances right now for you are going to be one tough road.  A wedding?  Oh my, just tell yourself it is all about your son and his day.  I can't imagine what else will get you through it.  If it was me I would try to tuck away for as much of it as possible.  It was how I got through a similar situation.  But we all differ so do what you need to do.  And I too had to move quite quickly after my husband death.  I moved around great piles, packed them in boxes and they still sit in storage three years later.  Someday…….

I want to wish for you angel wings tomorrow…….take care………morgan