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Comment by Nancy Gershman on May 12, 2012 at 9:15pm

Loretta D speaks about the experience of creating a Healing Dreamscape in the wake of her mother's death:

"For the first 53 years of my life, my mom and I had a relationship that was hostile, critical, symbiotic, painful and shaming. For the last 3 years of her life, we fell in love.

“Fall in love.” Our mothers are our portals into this world, our anchors. The plan is that you’re always in love with your mom. It’s the given: no one loves you more; she knew you before anyone. Except on account of me, my mom was tied to the house, and didn’t have girlfriends – I ended her social life.

I think seeing the rose petals, Anna’s deathbed the last gift I gave her - the Queen part - and the small butterfly, Anna with butterfly; sitting on the stool as I once did as a child, is healing. Back then, the city was full of butterflies. I was always fascinated by the transformation process.

When I look at Anna’s dreamscape, it makes me feel open; I feel I’m communicating with my mother. Touching my feelings – feelings that erupt from the photomontage. The dreamscape never made me cry, except for the first time I saw it, but it was more about the beauty of it.

Funny, butterflies don’t live very long."