pat martin

Female

Smicksburg, PA

United States

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About Me:
I am a widow of 7 years who has lost so many people recently - people are either rude about it or keep pointing it out to me as if I wouldn't know. The 2 losses that hurt the most were sudden my husband seven years ago in a farm accident and now my daughter in a car accident
About my Loss:
I lost my 27 year old daughter in a traffice accident 3 weeks ago In the space of 1 year I lost one of my best friends, my mother, my mother in law, my brother, my sister-in-law, but this last is almost more than I can understand, it hurts so much. She was a wonderful person and we were extremely close in our relationship

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  • Laura Villarreal

    Pat, it seems like you are doing just fine with the computer part of this...I have come to believe my heart will ache forever and I will just need to learn to live with it. There are times I feel like my daughter is just a phone call away then a cold, hard slap brings me back to reality. We are required to redefine who we are...at least that has been the case for me. For 33 years I was Angela's mom and my world revolved around her...I am so lost now and the road is difficult. You will be okay but I know it just doesn't seem that way right now. "One day, one hour, one minute, one second, one breath at a time".
    Laura

    Jan 28, 2010

  • pat martin

    Laura - my daughters name was also Angela, she was a registered nurse who worked with the elderly. She was such a loving person. Do you have any grand children? My Angie was single. I do have an older daughter who is presently pregnant. She tried for years to have a baby - it was our Christmas miracle. then Jan. 7 arrived. I lost my husband on Dec. 23, 2002. This was the first Christmas we were all happy. Angie found her dad the night he was killed from a tractor accident on our farm. She always suffered with the thought she should have been able to save him. Sometimes life just doesn't make sense at all. Pat

    Jan 28, 2010

  • Laura Villarreal

    Pat. my daughter was married but had no children. Like your Angela my Angela was a very loving person and very giving of herself. I am just so lost without her...I just can't begin to imagine how you are holding up grieving for your husband and daughter. I am just so tired all the time, physically, mentally and emotionally. Write anytime...Laura

    Jan 28, 2010