Dear Melissa,

I lost my wonderful mother Nancy Preston June 26, 2011. My life is so sad and lonely without her. I am completely by myself now. I cried myself to sleep again last night as I often do. We spent almost every weekend together shopping and doing fun things before she got cancer in her throat. She died within 1 year. I died with her. Your words are so close to how I feel. Life is just empty now. I never had children and my family, I have 3 sisters, we are not close. They never have had time in their lives to be sisters. Mom was my everything. Sue

THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR YOUR KIND THOUGHTS.  I REALLY HAVE NOT ADDRESSED MY LOSS.  I KNEW WHAT SUE WAS GOING THROUGH AND SHARED A STORY OF ENCOURAGEMENT WITH HER THAT I FOUND WITH THE LOSS OF MY MOTHER 8 YEARS AGO.

I AM SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSSES.  I LOST MY MOTHER, THEN 2 YEARS LATER WHILE I WAS HAVING 1/2 OF A LUNG REMOVED MY BEST FRIEND WAS DIAGNOSED WITH STAGE 4 LUNG CANCER.

THIS IS REALLY A LOT FOR ANY OF US TO HANDLE.

MY HUSBAND WAS SO GOOD TO ME. NOW HIS OLDEST DAUGHTER IS SO GOOD TO ME AS SHE LIVES CLOSE. 

IT WAS 3RD MARRIAGES FOR BOTH OF US AND WE HAD A VERY SPECIAL RELATIONSHIP WHICH DID HAVE A SOME ROUGH SPOTS BUT WE HAD OVER COME THEM.  AFTER A "PERFECT" WEEKEND A DRUNK LADY DRIVING FOR 5 MILES THE WRONG WAY STOLE HIM FROM ME, HIS FAMILY AND NEWEST GRAND DAUGHTER WHO HE SAID " I HAVE TO TEACH HER HOW TO DRIVE A TRACTOR".  HE  WAS A 72YR OLD ARCHITECT, NEVER SICK AND THE MOST GENEROUS MAN I EVER KNEW.

MY LIFE WILL NEVER BE THE SAME...

Thanks Melissa, Sorry that we meet under these circumstances. Hugs to you - Lisa

Melissa... hi.. I relate to so much of the feelings I have read on your page and throughout the site in general. People seem to expect me to be, or behave, a certain way. I just feel like saying...I don't care what you think. Or people give advice, they are often well meaning, but it often hurts me on a deeper level. As far as your beautifully creativity is concerned, the closest thing I have to peace (and it is not really true or complete peace) comes in the form of my photography or poetry....if I didn't have that I don't know what I would do. ... also reading what you wrote..or any type of art that touches me deeply can give me moments of something that goes a bit beyond the pain.. thank you for sharing your poem..  Christine

Melissa, great pictures.

Thank you so much for your comments and reply to my post.

Hi Melissa, Yes, you can borrow the poem. I found it on the internet when searching for poems for funerals and memorial services.

I am sorry about the loss of your Mom. I lost mine in 1995. I still miss her.

Sandy

Thanks, Melissa. Hugs to you, too!

Hi Melissa,

It's okay!  We will totally talk some more!!! :)  Take care!!!!

Thank you for the warm welcome. I appreciate it .

Hi Melissa,

   I am so sorry for your loss as well. It is good to find others who are going through similar feelings. Even though the losses may be different and we go through the feelings at different times, the feelings themselves are very much the same. I hate that others have to experience the hurt and pain of loss, but I'm glad we have understanding and support and know that we are not alone. That helps tremendously. Hugs to you, Betsy

Thank you Melissa...I am kinda lost regarding this sight. I do not know how to navigate. It does not help that I am a pc doorknob in training. I know about what you said about everyone being different. I keep wanting to run when I get here. I am scared...and I do not know if that is just me?I have so much anxiety. Is there like an open forum or something? You are my first person I spoke with. I am sorry if I am not doing the right thing and putting a burden on you.

Thank you Melissa.  I tend to see the light side often, but believe me, when the darkness comes I immediately look for my flashlight.

I wish I did writings for a living.  Glad I make you laugh.

I do know what you mean about 'that feeling'.  It's really unexplaineable.  Can't really put into words.  

Although there is something very convincing about the experience of our dream visit.  I call it a dream visit cuz it is a dream and a visit in one.  Definitely not an ordinary everyday dream though.  You know what I mean!

I think you are amazing too and thank you for your friendship!

There is magic in the air.  Keep breathing....

Hug back,

Michael

Melissa, I was commenting and something happened, so you may get a half a message from me.  i'm starting over now in case you don't get any of it.  Thank you for inviting me to be your friend.  I am sorry it took so long to respond.  I haven't been on for a while.  i read some of your blog, and I'm sorry for the loss of your mom.  I know how you feel.  My mom was my best friend in the world.  Once she found out she was sick, she declined so fast.  The world changed too fast for me to be able to get used to it.  I saw your pictures.  I think you are the young woman with the medium brown hair.  You are very pretty, and you are so young to loose your mother already.  I am so sorry for your loss.  I hope you have had experiences since your mom died that you know are her letting you know she is okay.  And, it is okay for you to feel all of the ways you said you feel in your blog.  My brother-in-law just lost his nephew to violence with no warning, and my sister's emails sounded just like your blog.  It sucks, but that is how bad grief feels.  I'm so sorry you are going through all of this.

Hello,

I'm Mary Norris and was wondering if I could have an invite to the group that you created called Having Issues Coping with life after mom has passed I lost my mom on Mary 27th of this year and I found that group to look very interesting and thought it would be helpful for me grieving for my mom and being able to move forward in my life.

Sincerely,

Mary Norris

It kills me too that I lost my mom, my best friend a few weeks ago to Pancreatic Cancer. I get up everyday with a hole in my heart. I would love to talk and find and give support to others.