Glad to have found this site and it is clear how effective it is helping people. I am going to add it to my website www.boomergrief.com.

I learn something new everyday. I am very sorry for your loss. I hope you get some help through this site.

Sorry for your Losses Linda. I've been Unemployed for a long time and was Powerless 'watching' my Father die in silent Agony from Cancer last year only to Lose "me second mum" Dorothy 8 months and 3 days later. I attended some face to face Grief Support groups which helped somewhat, as they were only 6 visits once a week. However, I now realize I am not alone. I Hope this music helps Comfort you as it is helping me.

http://www.soundstrue.com/shop/Gregg-Braden’s-Music-from-the-Divine...

Sorry I missed your comments online. I've been having a chaotic day and 'should' go out and get some sunshine while it lasts. I hope you find some comfort in something you like doing.

Hi Linda,

I never allowed myself to 'show' my feelings to my 'family' or 'friends' as I was Terrified of the Rejection and didn'T want to be noticed as my 'Mother' used to either tell me the same as your husband or else she would get angry or laugh at me saying I was "a sucker like she was giving too much to everyone and no body gave a damn about her problems", which she's NEVER 'talked' about her loss of her 'Father' when she was 14. Sixty years later, she didn't show let shed a single tear over my Father whom I saw Dying in Silent Agony from Cancer and even Yelled at me over the phone that he "Did this to himself by not eating right !", blaming his 'drinking' which he stopped 30 years ago, however he wasn't half the alcoholic her 'family' is.

I'm trying to 'understand', 'accept' & forgive my 'Mother' as the Tough 'Love' Character she has been for most of my 'life', but I don't find it easy. I've been Bursting into Tears Sobbing my Heart and Soul out over the Loss of my Father, Especially over the Deep Emotional Hurt & Shock from what he said to me and from the Guilt over How I reacted back to him in September 2009, two months before he was diagnosed with Colon Cancer.

This book is helpful as well

http://www.google.ca/#sclient=psy&hl=en&rlz=1R2GGLL_enCA330...

So, Be GOOD to yourself and Let the Tears Flow. They are Healing and I am Grateful I live alone so I can shed mine, but Also Very Grateful that I have a Best Friend, who Understands & Accepts me as I am, as she also lost her Father 2 months before mine. I hope this music helps ease your pain as it's helping me with letting go of mine.

http://www.soundstrue.com/shop/Gregg-Braden%E2%80%99s-Music-from-th...  

Hi Linda,

I went to a Biokinesiologist from whom I learned auto hypnosis techniques going to the mirror and telling myself positive affirmations (things I like about myself) to stop the negative thoughts that kept attacking me which I 'learned' from my 'Mother' who was verbally, mentally, emotionally and physically abusive towards me and my dad, as she never wanted children, fearing we would get her epilespy, which her gr.1 'educated' 'Mother' told her teachers not to 'bother' teaching her because they thought she was mentally ill. Unfortunately, she passed this negativity towards me, but I'm healing myself through Al-anon and the 12 steps, even attending AA meetings to educate myself from this family disease.

May you be well. I've had a migrane headache all day and pray God Removes it as well. I 'should' eat, but don't feel hungry. Eating the Right Foods & Sleeping Helps as well as Thinking & Feeling GOOD Thoughts & Doing GOOD Things for Ourself.