I found this on another page posted by karen R. :

Unless you've lost a child.......then
Don't ask us if we are over it yet. We'll never be over it.

A part of us died with our child.
Don't tell us they are in a better place.
They are not here with us, where they belong.
Don't say at least they are not suffering.
We haven't come to terms with why they suffered at all.
Don't tell us at least we have other children.
Which of your children would you have sacrificed?
Don't ask us if we feel better.
Bereavement isn't a condition that clears up.
Don't force your beliefs on us.
Not all of us have the same faith.
Don't tell us at least we had our child for so many years.
What year would you choose for your child to die?
Don't tell us God never gives us more than we can bear.
Right now we don't feel we can handle anything else.
Don't avoid us. We don't have a contagious disease, just unbearable pain.
Don't tell us you know how we feel, unless you have lost a child.
No other loss can compare to losing a child. It's not the natural order of things.
Don't take our anger personally.
We don't know who we are angry at or why and lash out at those closest to us.
Don't whisper behind us when we enter a room.
We are in pain, but not deaf.
Don't stop calling us after the initial loss.
Our grief does not stop there and we need to know others are thinking of us.
Don't be offended when we don't return calls right away.
We take each moment as it comes and some are worse than others.
Don't tell us to get on with our lives.

We each grieve differently and in our own time frame.
Grief can not be governed by any clock or calendar.
Do say you are sorry. We're sorry, too, and you saying
that you share our sorrow is far better than saying any of those
tired cliches you don't really mean anyway. Just say you're sorry.
Do put your arms around us and hold us.
We need your strength to get us through each day.
Do say you remember our child, if you do.
Memories are all we have left and we cherish them.

Do let us talk about our child.
Our child lived and still lives on in our hearts, forever.
Do mention our child's name. It will not make us sad or hurt our feelings.
Do let us cry. Crying is an important part of the grief process.
Cry with us if you want to.
Do remember us on special dates.

Our child's birth date, death date and holidays are
a very lonely and difficult time for us without our child.
Do send us cards on those dates saying you remember our child.
We do.
Do show our family that you care.
Sometimes we forget to do that in our own pain.
Do be thankful for children.
Nothing hurts us worse than seeing other people in pain.  

Hello everyone I joined Grief support today. On my page I shared the passing of Heather My 19 yr. old Daughter. She passed away on Oct. 10th 2010 in the US 23 highway car accident near Okemos, MI I miss Heather so much, She was my best friend and a blessed gift to my husband and I. I'm struggling to get through the days. Thanks for listening

I lost my only daughter Jocelyn on September 18th, 2011.  She was hit by a drunk driver - hit and run - after she'd fallen off her bike in Alhambra, CA. I know I'm only touching into the very beginning of what will be a long and painful experience. She was 24 years old, and we were very close. I'm not sure what's ahead but am glad I found this forum. Hopefully, I can meet others who I can talk with about this situation.  Everything for me has changed, and I'm just starting to sort through the full extent of it.

It has been nearly 6 weeks since my son age 26 passed due to an ongoing heart rhythm condition. He was finally happy in his work and his life. I don't know if his guard was down with health but you have to wonder. It still won't bring him back. People say such stupid things when you have an only child. I remember it way back when with people's comments.  They don't walk in your shoes or reasons for having one. Not everybody can have piles of kids and often those that do often don't care for them. This was not the case in our family. We were so blessed having him in our lives. I miss talking to him so and I know he'd be telling me some political story from the current news. Oh I miss that sparring. What great fun listening to him about these candidates. Sometimes conversation shifted to music or even sports. We are so shattered now. People say time helps. Hard to believe them when grief is so unbearable. I see so many parents now in grief support. You recognize there are so many good folks out there who have been living this way. My own grandmother did over 30 years ago and I didn't understand at the time. Now I can understand why her affect changed. I wonder if I will sleep at all tonight. 

((((HUGS)))) to all of you who have joined this group.I have read the postings and I am so sorry for each of you.I cant believe it has been 2 years for me. It does not feel any better. I'm very sorry I havent been here to greet you all personally but I have gone back to school and that has taken all my time. I will try to be here alot more often but feel free to talk to each other and get to know one another. We dont have to suffer alone. Reach out.