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How to move on...
How to move on after the loss of your significant other? Is this possible? When? Navigating through this process while also dealing with your grief.
No Nesting In My Hair
"You cannot prevent the birds of sorrow from flying over your head, but you can prevent them from building nests in your hair". ~ Old Chinese Proverb
I have one more member of the group now so its better to make discussions.
This is how I feel right now. Fetus? Egg? it's against nature to stay like this... Broken wings, broken heart, broken hopes, broken life...
For 3 months I was tempted to lessen this tragedy in my life by numbing my mind with alcohol, sleeping or escape from it by reading or watching TV incessantly.
At the same time, I started thinking that it is essential for a healthy bereavement that I NOT avoid extreme emotions and anxiety in the first few months following a loss. I must experience the whole thing fully in order to successfully process grief and move on. I let myself return back to March about 2 weeks ago and go through my horrible pain, and cry and don't sleep, and scream late at night. Now I feel empty, I can cry and I feel pain, but it is not covering the whole world with a black blanket. My victories are very small and short but they are my victories.
NO NESTING IN MY HAIR!
Nora
Today was the day when they nested in my hair.
I failed today.
At the same time I did many things - only decided not to go anywhere as I cried and my eyes hurt.
My condition is not healthy, it is exhausting. I am getting very tired and upset. It is hard to move anywhere.
My plan for tomorrow:
1. Start my diet to be healthy and look like myself. It will take 3-4 months but I will be there.
2. Go out to visit banks
3. Buy food for my diet.
4. Hug my dogs.
5. Send at least 5 resumes in the morning.
6. Call cemetery - this is the hardest one...
7. Keep listening to meditation to calm down.
Jun 25, 2017
M Adams
Nov 21, 2017