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Missing my Son or Daughter
For all of us that are suffering the loss a son or daughter.
The HOW ARE YOU dreaded Question ???? How do you answer???
Okay- I thought maybe addressing this Nasty Question may help us ----
What Do you Say when your asked this Question ??? --I understand of course it is in most times more of a greeting than a question.. We all did or have done it.
However- Some also don't seem to give up but, how are you -- really? we all know- They don't really want the true answer - They want us to be okay - because they care about us- & need us to be okay. - Most can't handle the Truth.... They need to hear we are OKAY----- What do you say.... Does anyone have a creative way of answering????? Please Share... Maybe we can help each other.....
What Do you Say when your asked this Question ??? --I understand of course it is in most times more of a greeting than a question.. We all did or have done it.
However- Some also don't seem to give up but, how are you -- really? we all know- They don't really want the true answer - They want us to be okay - because they care about us- & need us to be okay. - Most can't handle the Truth.... They need to hear we are OKAY----- What do you say.... Does anyone have a creative way of answering????? Please Share... Maybe we can help each other.....
Maria
If some asks How are you and I don't know them, I say OK. If I do know them, I say pray for me and ask or give them a hug. Everybody wants to help me. I give them that opportunity.
Jul 30, 2013
Vassiliki Zafeiri
Dear Karen
the issue is not the question, but the answer. Believe me i have learnt that especially this question is like they are kidding, but you have to understand them and forgive them - what they say is what they know (nothing)... So, Avoid being miserable, and say you are not ok. Stand up to grief and life. Make everybody admire you and respect you. Find the strength within you, because we all have it. Yes you can be sad, cry, not be ok, but don't allow anyone feel sorry for you. I write these, which are based on my personal beliefs and this is what I do. I feel blessed I had a wonderful charismatic son for 20 years, and as happy as i felt when i gave birth to him, the same way I shall mourn and cry and be sad and depressed because i lost him, but only for him and only I know how i feel inside.. The rest of the people are not entitled to know, except for only a few ones. ...
Sep 24, 2013
Ross Hotard
Dec 17, 2014