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Permalink Reply by Julie Ann Finch on April 27, 2011 at 1:07pm

You sound exactly like me but it has not even been a year yet. I am so totaaly lost and lonely. I love you so much Jason... as the tears start flowing now....

Permalink Reply by Mary Catenacci on April 27, 2011 at 3:10pm

I am so sorry we are in this club none of us wanted. You are in my thoughts. Write me if you would like. Mary

Permalink Reply by Julie Ann Finch on April 27, 2011 at 3:21pm

Thanks Mary, sometimes I drain all my energy with the "what if's" I am glad I have a job to give me some routine. I forget about the pain there by helping others.

Permalink Reply by Mary Catenacci on April 28, 2011 at 5:51pm

there is a lot of resource, it may be to soon. I lost a lot of my family. I lost 6 close family in 10 mos in 2001 and early 2002. That hurt me so much. Nothing like losing my husband. I try to think of what I would like him to do to get by without me. I have several grief books. There is one that shares to get a big teddy bear or stuffed animal and put some of your loved ones clothes on the bear etc. I did that.My husband wore sleevless t-shirts in the winter. I had some that still had his smell in a good way on them. I dressed that Teddy in one of those t-shirts. I cut down my husband's favorite tie and put it on my teddy.That teddy gets a lot of hugs. And a lot of tears. I have another part of that t-shirt under his pillow sometimes I just bury my face in it and cry. It is pain like no other!