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Permalink Reply by anna l. on August 14, 2012 at 9:37pm

Kali, Im so sorry for your loss.  If it seems to be getting harder it is probably that the numbness that sets in at first is wearing off and the reality that this is for keeps is setting in.  My husband has been gone for over a year now and my days are calmer now than they were last year.  I cant say they are getting better because better would be if my son and husband had not died!  It must be very hard to have to put  your grief away to parent your daughter, but she does give you a wonderful reason to get out of bed every day.  Take gentle care. 

Permalink Reply by Debra Waszut on October 23, 2012 at 8:37pm

I know this sounds unbelievable, but you will get through this.  I lost my husband of 33 years 5 months ago to a sudden heart attack.  I have sought out help through a grief counseling group, church and I read a devotional called "Jesus Calling" almost every day.  I also go to a christian based spin class which is a great physical outlet for all the pain you are feeling.  Try getting out a a bike and ride as hard as you can.  It does something I promise.  Believe that God has a plan for you and your daughter.  You will find happiness again, but you have to seek it out.  I am living this with you and I have found happiness again.  It can and will happen. 

Permalink Reply by Deb Nel on November 1, 2012 at 8:01am

Hi, I was just wondering how long did it take you to find happiness again?  My husband died 3 months ago unexpected from a heart attack and I feel such saddness and feel I'll never be normal and happy again.  Did you remarry?

Permalink Reply by renee collier on January 22, 2013 at 2:19am

Kali, I am sorry for the loss of you fiance.  Your family is beautiful.  It's a blessing that your daughter is with you. A piece of him is here in her. (she is a doll)  She will give you the strength to go on as difficult as that my be. And she will know her father loves her because of the stories and photos you will show and tell her. I am sorry that you have not received much support from his family.  I can relate to that. My fiance passed away on April 27 2012 and his family really did not approve of us. So when he passed I too received a cold shoulder..  But what is important is that Chris loved you and his daughter.  This web site is a blessing. It is always here for us to turn to in our hours of sadness.

Bless you and your beautiful daughter.

Permalink Reply by Kali Grainger on January 28, 2013 at 8:33am

Thank you so much for your kind words. I haven't been on here in quite some time but it means a lot.