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Permalink Reply by Kim Cady on June 10, 2012 at 4:55pm

I would like to give advice... I too have had multiple losses from cancer, also personal losses - house, job, and much more. I am starting from scratch, but the setbacks are tough. I'm 58 and working now... but, losing my dad and husband has kept me from moving forward other than for survival in the last 3 years. It takes time, a support group and faith... no matter what your religion - faith that they survive in your heart and memory. Just recently I've had moments were the good things we had together are starting to come back.... but, I am in a very stuck complicated grief due to other struggles. Work with others to work out your thoughts.... and there is no reason for embarassment for the way your sister choose to cross over. She was probably in a lot of pain. Take care, Kim

Permalink Reply by marilynne j on June 10, 2012 at 8:35pm

Hi Denise

Oh So much pain I can relate all my three siblings and mother and grandchild died in the last three years....its was to much for me also oh what pain ....but I try to handle this pain by going to grieving counsling at the hospital that my mom and sister died at .....it has helped me so much...you need to keep busy with work or volunteer work where you are needed....Iam not saying its less pain but it does help with being able to function ..Denise with Gods help hopefully we can get thru all this pain:) Take care Love and ight Marilynne

 

Permalink Reply by Nancy Payette on September 20, 2012 at 2:45pm

I understand you. I am battling a mental illness and sometimes when i get so sad and my parents are gone, i feel like ending it all. I wish i could feel nothing. But I feel physically sick now. i am so exhausted. I've been this way for two days and i feel like i am going to collapse. I don't feel like going to another doctor, because i have been to so many. Sometimes, like your sister, feel so down that i cannot take it anymore, and give up to escape. I walk around thinking there must be something better then this world! It is a very empty feeling when death happens. i don't think i will ever get better...but there are moments of happiness with friends. On another site, people were trying hard to think about he positives in life and writing in a gratitude journal. I know this is not entirely advice but you are not alone and do not be ashamed to tell people how your sister died. Hang in there. nancy