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Permalink Reply by Judith Brandl on March 25, 2013 at 2:00am

I'm very sorry for the loss of your father and your mother. I understand your feelings. My mother died six years ago and when she did I felt like a little child again. It was a very lost feeling. I have a friend who's mother died right around the time my mother died, we both described the feeling the same way, it was as if our we were lost, we had lost our anchor in the world and it felt scary. I think we can be strong enough to live with the loss, we have to be, but I agree with you, it's a very hard thing to have to feel and live with. I think when you lose a parent it feels as if part of your heart is taken away.

Permalink Reply by Jessica on June 3, 2013 at 9:55pm

If you ever want to talk, I'm here to listen.  I am new to this site, so it might take me a bit to figure it out, but I lost my mom when I was a teenager and I know for a fact that time doesn't always heal.  I also lost my grandpa on my mom's side last year...my mom's parents half raised me and I felt like my dad had just died.  I don't think you could have said it any better in feeling like an orphan.  I suppose that's how I have felt half my life as well.  I believe you wouldn't be given situations in life that you can't handle, sometimes it seems really hard, but it will give you new experiences and relationships you may not have had without those things happening.

Permalink Reply by Adam Hethcot on July 5, 2013 at 11:21pm

Hi, Amanda.  I am 23.  When i was 6, my mother died, and then my father died when i was 13 even though he was pretty irrelevant in my life after my mother's death.  I understand very much how you feel.  I've been on my own for so long, and I still get really bitter and upset about what I've been through.  I see other people my age, they have it much easier than us.  Friend can never really understand the loss.  All the time I find myself thinking about how different life would be if my parents hadn't died.  All the time I think I'm not strong enough to carry on.