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Permalink Reply by Joan Hardin on April 11, 2011 at 2:01pm

I was talking to someone the other day about the fact that i miss my daughter and the person responded by asking why i'm not over that yet. and informed me that i should have already moved past that. needless to say i have no intention of ever speaking to this person again.

Permalink Reply by Karen R. on April 11, 2011 at 2:26pm

Joan, I  totally understand, Some people do NOT think before they speak.

Permalink Reply by Karen R. on May 5, 2011 at 6:13pm

Hey Maria, I feel your pain! Trust me, even when people cant see our tears on the outside, they don't know that we have "tears" on the inside that are always there.

Permalink Reply by cassie on May 11, 2011 at 12:06pm

I don't know what you do for a living Maria, but I would cry anyway! Make-up does amazing things if it's really that important, and the truth is, crying helps to heal us.

I know a lot of people see crying as weakness, I used to believe that way myself. But if you think about it, you are truly at your strongest when you cry. It means you are feeling all of those horrible emotions that come with grief, and it's a necessary part of this process! It is much easier to ignore the pain or distract yourself from it than to accept it. And accepting it allows us to keep going.

Permalink Reply by Karen R. on May 5, 2011 at 6:31pm

Maria, I guess the only thing we can do is think about the pain that we would cause others if we ended our lives. Trust me, I know how tempting it is. I don't want my children and other family members and close friends to have to bare sadness of losing me. It's definately a struggle, because some days i think that they will just have to understand the tremendous pain I am in. I find my self trying to hide my pain from them because they want me to "STOP THIS BEHAVIOR"! Like I can turn it off! I know they mean well because they are concerned about my health but they dont know how much that pisses me off and sounds so insensitive to me......even though they probably dont mean it that way.

Permalink Reply by Karen R. on May 6, 2011 at 2:50pm

I know sweetheart but please DON'T do it!

Permalink Reply by Marti Shaffer on May 7, 2011 at 9:21am

the pain is too much to handle but u will. I know that some days i just have thought about doing that just to see Matt but its not the way. There is still life through this pain and some days that life just plain sucks but u can do it!!!!!!!!!!!

Permalink Reply by Melissa Szuch on June 30, 2011 at 8:27am

SO how MISERABLE WAS SARAHS MEMORIAL? 

Was it a day that I never wanted to happen... Yes

Was it a beautiful tribute to her life ..... Yes

Miserable no....

Permalink Reply by Sandra LaBonte on July 1, 2011 at 3:24pm

My only child, my daughter Kasey, has been dead for 79 days. Yesterday my own mother asked me (for the second time) Are you sure it's getting any better yet? Yes Mom, I pretty damn sure. She wonders why I don't call her more often.

Permalink Reply by Sandra LaBonte on July 1, 2011 at 6:14pm

Kathy,

I can relate so much to this post. I was outside the hospital for a break during the 2 days it took Kasey to progress to brain death (what a horrible thing to have to write) when it hit me that i will never be a grandmother. As sad as I am for me, I am so much more sad for Kasey. She never got to have the joy that i had being a mother. My sister is taking me to dinner now, but when i come back I will see how I did the profile picture and try and help you. My deepest sympathy for the loss of your beloved Kate.

Sandy

Permalink Reply by Sandra LaBonte on July 1, 2011 at 10:22pm

Kathy, I changed my picture to remember how I did it. Go to your home page. Then go to the right where it says Settings. You can upload a picture from your computer by clicking browse. Thanks for the talk. Goodnight, Sandy

Permalink Reply by Karen R. on July 2, 2011 at 9:57am

Hello to everyone. I feel like I am speaking a foreign language when I say my son 'passed away'!!!! That sounds crazy to me, even as I read this! It throws me over the edge even further when I see images in my mind of my son's funeral, I try to convince myself that this is all my imagination or nightmare that I haven't awakened from yet. This kind of pain is torturous  in the sense that, it never gets better.......for me at least. My pain has not lessoned and the loss of my young son will NEVER be "OK". It's so hard for me to express that to others who truly don't understand. I do NOT hold back my feelings, when asked the dreaded question "how are you",  I usually tell them that i could be so much better but most of the time I will NOT sugar coat it, I will not hestitate to say that my life is destroyed, I'm broken, I'm fu@!ed up, I'm doing horrible! The thing that pisses me off the most is when they say "WHY"!!!!, they must be kidding me, especially when it's someone that knows what happened to my son. I hate to sound cold but people should realize that its nothing personal and should not be offended by some of my responses and if they are, I can't help them because it's not meant that way. Everyone should think a little more before they speak and if they are not sure what to say to me, like I know that many do not........just give me a hug.        Thanks for listening, again.

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