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Permalink Reply by O.L. Cato on April 5, 2016 at 8:05am

I lost my husband 100 days ago.  Nothing will ever be the same.  I keep  thinking he will come through the door.  My heart is broken.  I have given some of his clothes away but then I wonder how he will feel when he comes home and they are gone.  I KNOW he won't be back but somewhere in the back of my mind I keep hoping.  His truck is on the driveway.  I can't sell it.  I have never known such pain and understand how Roseanne and Mori feel.

Permalink Reply by Rosanne Wick on April 5, 2016 at 10:51am

I'm so sorry for your loss.  I know what you mean about feeling like he's going to walk through the door any minute.  It truly does make your heart feel like it's broken.  It feels like there's a steal band around your heart squeezing harder and harder.  And you feel like you're living in a nightmare, and when you wake up he'll be there.  You want so badly to talk to them one more time and tell them how much you love them and how much they meant to you.  It's the constant ache of longing.  

One thing I've done with some of his clothes, is make memorial pillows for the kids.  I took a small decorator size pillow form and cut a T-shirt to fit it.  Then I took one of his plaid shirts and cut it to fit over the pillow with the collar and the button placard.  The kid's love them!  Another thing you can do is, find a picture of your husband wearing a shirt that you still have.  Find a frame that's much bigger than the picture and cover the background with a piece of the fabric from the shirt.  Then attach the picture on the fabric.  I call it a labor of love.