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Permalink Reply by M Adams on November 11, 2017 at 8:50pm

I think it is true that when I can do something loving, whether for a family member, a friend, or a stranger,I do feel more normal, more like my former self. It has been sixteen months since I lost my husband, and for a long time I couldn't really interact much with anyone without breaking down, so that makes you increasingly isolated. Being alone is in a way comfortable for me now, and solitude lets me grieve and experience my situation honestly, but it probably isn't the best idea to be totally alone all the time. Recently I find myself having kind, loving exchanges just randomly, like on the street, offering help or whatever, or receiving thanks from someone, and such moments do lift my spirits and make me feel more human, so I guess it's kind of a selfish manifestation of love, though not in a bad way?