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Permalink Reply by Mel Royer on January 27, 2016 at 12:55pm

Yes, Dennis!...Welcome. So sorry for your loss.  I too lost my wife, holding her in my arms as she slowly passed into the next world. Everyone here knows what you are feeling as we have all lost our significant other, soulmate, best friend and so much more. I lost my wife In April and I remember the first 2 weeks were numb. As if I didn't have a clue as to what happened.  As the reality set in I experienced the awful pang of grief. Yet it is healing. You will experience this healing over time and it will ease. but for now you will rise and fall with the waves of despair as you try to figure out how you can ever live alone, especially alone without your wife. May God Bless you and give you comfort and peace and welcome to this group of fellow travelers. Take Care of Yourself....Mel

Permalink Reply by Patrice Ball on January 27, 2016 at 3:58pm

Hi Dennis - I am so sorry for your loss. My husband died in October (2015), after bravely fighting cancer. I hope you find support here, and in your physical community. I am still living in a bit of a blur; reality just moves to fast. Try to remember to take care of yourself first; don't worry about other people. 

Permalink Reply by Mary Mc on January 27, 2016 at 5:37pm

Hi Dennis,  I am sorry for your loss. I am glad you were there with her. I am glad you are here.  This is my very first post. I lost my wife almost 2 months ago.  I got to hold her.  She had a devastating stroke.  I hope she could still hear me say goodbye.  I don't know what else to tell you except that I understand how much pain you are in, and how much confusion there is. 

Permalink Reply by Jon-Paul Ackerman on January 29, 2016 at 9:16pm

Remember you've lost nothing. Only experienced change, which is the only thing consistent in life. She is here. You have to sense Her. Your body and mind must be pure. I rendezvous with my Queen daily. I've never felt closer to Her.

Permalink Reply by Hilary Christene on January 30, 2016 at 12:12am

It is true, what we feel we lost, was the hope we had for more time together while we are here. Their physical bodies are finished now, but they go on still. Not just in our memories and the love of our hearts, but alongside us, only changed. Still we grieve the loss of what we hoped could last. I am sure many of us realized the gift of our shared lives was ultimately temporary, and wished our time in life would end together, so we would not have to know the pain of living in this place without them. My D is always with me, never further away than the thoughts which dwell on him breath by breath. He sends love, solace, and the promise of full reunion when I am done here. My task has become living with him still, in his new form, while withstanding the bitter seeming that he is gone. Like Jon Paul, I realize that we are closer now than we were when he was here embodied. I hear his jovial quip: "we're closer now than we have ever been. It's exactly what you always wanted!" I joke back, "I should have watched out what I was wishing for," but I only joke. It is all out of our hands. The amazing gift now is that now we share each moment of each day, each night, each dream. Yes, I suffer and grieve his absence from my arms, from my life. Yes, I long to be with him completely. It is hard to live in this new way, but my undying devotion to him calls on me, that really what choice do I have?

Permalink Reply by Patrice Ball on January 30, 2016 at 8:31pm

Yes, I carry him in my heart. I speak his name daily. He will always be a part of me. Even as I 'move forward'.... and even if I date again.

Permalink Reply by Robin Quinn on January 31, 2016 at 7:17pm

I lost my husband on the 20th.  I joined this group in hopes of finding ways to deal with my grief.

Permalink Reply by morgan on January 31, 2016 at 9:59pm

Robin,

You have come to the right place.  This is probably one of, if not the most valuable website online for those who mourn the loss of their loved ones.  It is raw and powerful and honest and you will always find someone here writing about how they cope.  Each of us see pieces of ourselves in others which then help us patch our own lives together.  You are very very early in the grief and your outreach will be the kind of support you will need going forward.  Come here as often as you need to, the door is aways open……..