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Permalink Reply by Debbie Lindley on September 27, 2009 at 8:52am

I understand. I lost my mother to Bial Duct Cancer. It has almost been a year. I miss her so much it hurts. I finally went to see a therapist and got some medication. I can't sleep anymore. I wish all of this pain would go away. I make myself get out of bed everyday and stay busy. They say time heals, but I don't think it does. It must be alot of time. I am angry at the people that research this horrible disease. My mother's cancer is so rare, it doesn't seem that anyone is working on a cure for her type of cancer. Going to see a therapist has helped me. It may be an option for you if you want to go.

Permalink Reply by Diana on September 27, 2009 at 9:00pm

THIS IS MY FIRST STEP TO GETTING HELP. i AM LOOKING FOR A GRIEF SUPPORT GROUP IN MY AREA. I HOPE ONE IS AVAILABLE. . WHERE DID YOU FIND A THERAPIST WHO UNDERSTANDS THIS GRIEF.
i UNDERSTAND TRYING TO KEEP BUSY. BUT i CANT 24 HOURS A DAY. AND THEN I FEEL SUCH LOSS. AND ALONENESS. I HATE CANCER. ITS SO UGLY.
i SO MISS THE SHARING. wHEN MY HUSBAND DIED , I THOUGHT, I REALLY NEED TO TALK TO MOM AND DAD. I REALIZED THEY ARE GONE TOO AND I HAVE NO ONE TO SHARE OR TALK TO.
I JUST HATE ALL OF THIS.
THANK YOU FOR REPLYING.

Permalink Reply by Debbie Lindley on November 4, 2009 at 3:38pm

I asked my doctor for a grief counselor. I lost my mother a year ago and then my father 7 weeks later. Five months after that I lost my grandmother. There is no explanation for the way I feel. Some days are better than others. The therapist does help. We just sold their house and we a doing a final cleaning out. The feeling is terrible and overwhelming. I wish you luck and hope you feel better.

Permalink Reply by Tania Taylor on November 14, 2009 at 10:57am

I was already seeing a therapist and she even talked to me on the phone while I was out of town. She is a great person and is helping. My hardest time is at night when the whole house is quiet. Due to time differences it was also the time I called my mom the most. For living in a big city I still can't find a good support group. They are all Catholic or christian and I am neither. I just want to be able to talk with people who are going through the same things I am, without bringing "higher powers" into the equation. Just understanding.

Permalink Reply by Diana on November 14, 2009 at 5:02pm

I DO UNDERSTAND HONEY. COMPLETELY. I LEFT A MESSAGE ON YOUR WALL. LET ME KNOW IF YOU FIND IT. THIS IS A LITTLE CONFUSING FOR ME SOMETIME.