my father in law was diagnosed with kidney cancer in July last year.

he was admitted to hospital on 18th dec and we were told he has an infection in his leg and would be fine and certainly home for xmas.

On the 24th we back over the hosp to visit they told us he had 48hrs if he was lucky.

2 days later he died on 21st dec

I was due to marry his son on the 30th dec!!

We went ahead with the wedding and it was a lovely day though very very hard.

Now with xmas, our wedding and new years out the way the grief is really starting to come out.

My new husband is really struggling, he is finding everything really hard. He finds he cant even go to the shops, not because he doesnt want to its because he physically cant do it!

Im trying my best to help him but dont know how to support him. I cant take his pain away and cant deal with my own pain cause I cant take care of us both so Ive had to bury my pain so that I can hold my husband together.

I keep reassuring him that all the physical symptoms that hes getting is all down the grief and keep telling him that everything hes feeling is "normal" for someone in so much pain. (he is convinced that what he is feeling is crazy and he thinks theres something wrong with him)

he thinks there is something wrong with him because he cant go to the shops.

Has anyone else felt like this and how did you overcome it.

I work and he stays at home with the kids, the kids are off school at the mo but will be going back to school next tuesday and everytime he thinks about the school run he gets really stressed and upset.

What are we going to do?