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Permalink Reply by Nicky Hutcheson on September 16, 2015 at 3:45am

Hi Hope

I am so sorry to hear about your sister's passing. I lost my older sister, unexpectedly, 6 years ago. We too spent so much time together, did so much together and I miss her terribly. 

Words can't help you heal from the pain you are experiencing, but I will say this, you are very much in the early days of your loss. The shock and pain are still so new and so fresh. I don't believe the missing and longing for your loved one ever goes away BUT the edge certainly softens, as time has gone on I've been able to look at photos, watch old videos, enjoy my memories of my sister without the stinging pain. 

A day will never go by without wishing she was here and even 6 years later I have days where the missing is soooo strong but the days get better and the better days get longer in between. I also joined a support group but only after a few months had passed and it was helpful to be able to talk in a safe place.

I do believe what helped me is if one day I felt like crying, I did, if the next day I felt like laughing, I did. Allow yourself to experience whatever emotion needs to be expressed. 

Please feel free to contact me any time if you need to chat. We can all use support.

Take care

Nicky 

Permalink Reply by Debby on September 21, 2015 at 8:40pm

Hi Hope,

I am so sorry for your loss. It sounds like you and your sister were very close. It grieves me to hear of the pain you are in. I understand and know that pain with the other losses I have had throughout my life. I do believe, life is still worth living. Yes, it will not be the same but there will be new opportunities and blessings, as time goes on. I have learned that life is not easy and there are going to be people, we will lose. But we have to go on.

Sounds like you are doing exactly what you should be doing to manage your grieve. It just takes time, and it is something you have to work through. It's still so new to you. Of course you would be in intense grief right now. I hope you will post something to let me know you are okay.

Take care, Debby

Permalink Reply by Hope Lowe on September 24, 2015 at 10:16pm

Hi Beth,

Thank you for your concern and sorry about the lost of your sister.

My sister was my companion as well. We had been together all our lives. She relied on me for her treatments yet I failed her.


I am overwhelmed with guilt and grief. I receive a lot of support from my on line friends.

Please do not dwell on not having a service or formal closure. It is what it is. You are an amazingly strong person and certainly will overcome it. Her husband and daughter must have a reason for doing it, possibly just honored her wishes. Why Don't you ask them?

Best regards,