My younger sister died unexpectedly Sept 8, 2015. She was 56. I had a feeling she was ill, but never would of dreamed, she would just drop dead. She hadn't been looking too good, the last 2 years or so. Autopsy indicated she died from Cirrhosis of the Liver and Gastrointestinal hemorrhage. I had a suspicion she was drinking - when we talked on the phone she always sounded tipsy. She was a teetotaler socially so her husband and daughter were even more shocked and are practically accusing the coroner of lying.

I am 5 years older. Our parents died, in 2007 and 2008 (my mom committed suicide) In 2011, my best friend died unexpectedly. In 2003, my oldest son died at the age of 25 from a cardiac event.

I spent 9 years after my son died, in complicated grief. It was horrible. Plus all the other deaths occurred during that time frame.

Currently I feel mostly numb. I have cried and I am sad, but I am doing okay. She lived about 250 miles away so we didn't see each other daily. We talked on the phone, maybe twice a month, sometimes more. The last time I saw her was in May. The evenings are when I tend to get weepy - I am talking to her daughter, my niece and am looking forward to a new relationship with her as well as my 2 year old great nephew.

I feel horrible for my brother-in-law. They were married for only 6 years and were still very much in love. He is lost. They cremated mys sister but have made no plans - nothing. It's like she was there one day and now, she's gone. No service or reception. Nada. They both can't deal with it just yet. So without a service, I do feel lost, and without that closure. I will have to find my own way.

Sorry to go on and on - it feels good to just dump all my feelings and thoughts into words. Nice to meet you all and I am sorry for the loss of your sister as well.

God Bless - Debby