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Permalink Reply by michael sandoval on November 12, 2012 at 10:20am

Dear Rose,

My condolences.  I my mom passed on sept 28th 2012.  I miss her so much.  i cry all the time for her.  I'm sorry for your loss.

love,

Mike

Permalink Reply by Mary on November 12, 2012 at 6:36pm

Rose, I am so sorry for your loss, of your mom and now of your dad being near you.  Sometimes when folks are grieving their behavior is unrationale especially when they were with someone so very long, they can't fathom being without someone.  Congratulations on your baby, girl or boy?  Focus your attention on your baby and all the other will fall into place as it is meant to.  I am sure your mom is very proud and beaming at her grandchild.

Permalink Reply by Rose on November 12, 2012 at 9:44pm

I have a little boy. He is so precious and it hurts to think of him growing up without his grandparents. According to my dad he has "nothing left" to keep him here. I know my mom would've loved her grandson and nothing would've kept her from him. I wish I would've asked her for more advice. What I wouldn't give for one more minute with her...

Permalink Reply by Brenda Ann on November 14, 2012 at 7:03am

Rose, I am so sorry you are going through this double loss but you still have everything your mother taught you - it is inside you. I know that I hear my mothers words and expressions coming out of my mouth and even see her hands while I work or play. Every minute she was alive she was teaching you directing you. Stop and think, "What would mom say , or what would mom do?" In this way you will still feel her in your life. Yes, she would have enjoyed your new baby but according to the Bible Jesus has been given the power to resurrect her and bring her back to life. (John 5:28, 29) "Do not marvel at this, because the hour is coming in which all those in the memorial tombs will hear his voice and come out."

I live 1200 miles from my parents. A long distance relationship is possible because of all the technology today. Skype your dad and call him often. He didn't leave you - he needs you too. I know because my husband and I moved those same 1200 miles from our daughter. She is still so angry with us - she felt abandoned and discarded. My sweet daughter knows that her daddy found a good job and the people are truly GREAT to us - she knows that the cold hurts my arthritis but that does not make her feel better about us leaving. She now has a new baby born July 4th - I skype her often and even call to talk to baby Addy - but her feeling of abandonment is still ever present. Let's keep talking - we can get through this . . .

Brenda

mawmaw1591@gmail.com

Permalink Reply by Kayla Weihs on November 14, 2012 at 9:00am

Rose, I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my mom 4 and a half years ago, and as much as I would like to say time heals all wounds, I'm not going to lie to you. When my mom passed away, my parents had been married for 25 years. My dad had no idea how to do anything, since my mom did everything. So I moved back to be closer to him. After a year and a half, he started dating a lady. I had a really hard time dealing with it, especially since her name was also Lisa, just like my mom. Then, after a year of dating, they got engaged. That was so hard to deal with because I didn't want anyone else to have the same exact name as my mom. I know how happy my dad is with her, so I try my hardest to me accepting of her. Now they have been engaged for a year and a half, and my dad says there's no hurry. I'm not even sure how much he wants to get married, he just wanted to put a ring on her finger so she wouldn't leave.

I don't know how much this helps, but I just wanted to let you know that I know how it feels to lose your mom and then have your dad move on before you have a chance to accept it. Just know I am here for you if you need to talk.

Sincerely, Kayla

Permalink Reply by Jayne on December 4, 2012 at 8:18pm

I am so sorry for your loss. I too lost my beautiful mom this July. I am heartbroken. It does not seem to get easier. I guess we have no choice but to think of them everyday and keep them alive with us. Jayne

Permalink Reply by Diana on December 11, 2012 at 11:50pm

I want my mom back too. I really do miss her. I still want to call her on the home, but then I realize that I cant cause she is in heaven. When her favorite movies come on tv I cry. I only get to see her in my dreams which aren't very often. Its been four months since I lost my mom. Sometimes I am still in denial. Iam thankful for this website cause people around me dont understand what Im going through. I feel very alone.

Permalink Reply by Anne on December 17, 2012 at 6:11am

I understand the wanting your mom back....on a daily basis, I cry for her..inside and outside.  Inwardly I am screaming to myself that this isn't true, it didn't happen, she isn't gone, and yet...she is.  I wish I had some comforting words right now, all I can offer is; congratulations on the baby and that I am sorry that your Dad made the decision he did at this moment in time.  I hope you can come to have a relationship with him someday.