Today is the day we bury my mom

Well, I guess I should say place her in her niche. We had her cremated as per her wish and this afternoon is the ceremony. I am so heart broken. It has been 40 days since her death and I feel so lost. I found out a few days before she passed that I am pregnant with my second child. I did have a chance to tell her I'm pregnant but my gosh it just sucks to have to go through this without her around. Please tell me there is light at the end of the tunnel? I feel like life is so hopeless right now. 

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Permalink Reply by Julia on June 26, 2015 at 12:25pm
I wish I could guve you words of encouragement and comfort but I can only say I feel your pain and every emotion you're going through. It's less than a month my mom was cremated and it's been difficult to say the least. I hope you have love and support around you and that you allow yourself to grieve. Hopefully it becomes bearable for all of us experiencing this sorrow.
Permalink Reply by fashionlover on June 27, 2015 at 7:53pm

Julia, 

I'm sorry for your loss. This is a pain that I am unsure will ever go away for me. My hope is that in time it will get easier for all of us to deal with. I have made an appointment this week to talk to a therapist. I am hoping this will give me some navigation through these dark days. 

Permalink Reply by charity wolf on June 26, 2015 at 12:46pm

the light at the end of any tunnel is LOVE. Remember your Mom is with you still. My heart is broken too and I have immense pain, with you.  I am commited to learning and growing from this grief journey. We are stronger than we think....may you grieve well and know that love is forever.  hug

 

Permalink Reply by fashionlover on June 27, 2015 at 7:56pm

Thank you for that Charity. I do feel my mother's love all around me. It is just so hard to not be able to speak to her every day and hear her voice. Those of us still in the physical world are attached to the here and now and that is what I m struggling with right now. My hope is that in time I will be able to feel her and communicate with her in a different way. I hope your journey is filled with love and light. 

Permalink Reply by charity wolf on June 28, 2015 at 10:19am

I love how you worded the human experience. I struggle with the same isssie, everyday. My Mama came to me in a dream and that gave me peace. I talk to her all the time still. It is a huge transition for our hearts, a letting go. One small step at a time.

May we tread this solitary journey with grace, tenderness and love....hugs to you, Fashionlover:)

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